- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
Hey secular Bees!
Eek! We’re getting close to the wedding, so I need to start thinking about vows. Fiance and I have decided we would like our officiant to read the vows, and we will respond with “I do.” Neither of us are particularly sentimental so something that is just true and plain spoken is best. I’ve been playing around with traditional vows, and this is my first draft (from me, he will reverse):
“______, will you take ______ to be your husband and equal partner? Do you commit yourself to his happiness and trust him with yours? Do you promise to love, honor, and sustain him in sickness and in health, in adversity and prosperity, and to be true and loyal to him for all the days of your life?”
Here are my thoughts:
– I must include equal partner in the vows, but it feels a tad awkward where it is.
– I’m not sure I really mean “happiness.” I’m thinking more well-being in an Aristotelian sense (fullfillment, character, completeness, etc.). But I super want to avoid anything even vaguely new-agey (not us at all). I want a phrase for saying that I commit myself to making his life as fullfilling, joyous, and complete as possible. Any help?
– Better word for honor? Respect?
Thanks for your thoughts, and feel free to post your secular vows!