Post # 1
My FH and I weren’t sure that we wanted to see each other before the wedding. But on the other hand, we wanted to make sure that we weren’t being rushed through pictures, that we could enjoy the time with our guests and just make the most of every moment.
With that being said, we have decided that seeing each other before the ceremony and taking all of our pictures beforehand would be the best way to utilize our time, that way we can enjoy everything, and remember everything.
How is everyone else feeling about this?? Our photographer (who is AMAZING) likes to do pics beforehand, so that’s how this topic originally came up.
Thanks, Bees <3
Post # 3
We are waiting. He won’t see me for the first time until I come down the aisle. It would be nice to spend some time together before hand, but I think it will work out ok!
Post # 4
Personally, I don’t want to see him before the ceremony. We are talking all girl and all guy pics earlier in the day. But the ones together will be after the ceremony and before the reception, so there should be no problems with time. Both our ceremnoy and reception are at the same place.
Post # 5
We ended up seeing each other before the ceremony and I do not regret it at all. At that point I was able to give him his gift that he ended up using during the reception. Since we were at my parents house we were more comfy and more ourselved.
Post # 6
We waited too. Honestly, I barely made it to the church in time and my husband forgot our marriage license, so I think it’s good we didn’t try to squeeze in some pictures before the ceremony. I would look at your timeline to see if it will fit in. That was probably the biggest reason we didn’t see each other beforehand.
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
We’re going to do it for one reason and one reason only: we want to get our pics out of the way before the ceremony so that we don’t miss cocktail hour.
Post # 8
I’m not against it if other people do it, but personally I want my Fiance to see me for the first time when I walk down that aisle with my father. I am very traditional and was raised traditional so I always envisioned that moment. And going to people’s weddings were they haven’t seen each other before hand it so emotional at the first look.
Post # 9
It might save time but honestly, I wouldn’t do it just for that. If you really want to wait, then you can make it work. Before the ceremony you can still do your pics with immediate family and your bridesmaisd/his groomsmen and then vice versa for him and that will save some time after. Don’t let your photog talk you into it, do it because you want to. I don’t think you’ll regret it either way but I think you can make it work if you want to wait. Are you having a cocktai hour between the ceremony and reception? That usually helps so the guests are occupied and not just standing around.
Post # 10
We’re planning on seeing each other beforehand. Also because before our ceremony at the registry office we have to go through a final “interview” process to make sure we’re not marrying each other so I can stay in the country (or something like that – nevermind that I pay taxes and have done for years!) and it’s a lot easier to do it together.
Post # 11
We’re seeing each other. We’re planning on doing a “first look” and taking all of our couple and bridal party pics beforehand. We are doing a pretty in-depth, multi-location photoshoot for our pics, so doing it between was not feasible. Plus, we are doing everything in one place and “flipping” our room, so it seems kind of pointless to leave between ceremony and reception. We’re going to do the family pictures during the cocktail hour.
Post # 12
we’re doing a first look and all our bridal party and family pics beforehand. our ceremony starts pretty late, so we’ll get natural light for our photography, as well as getting to enjoy our cocktail hour. it actually fits with the Jewish tradition, where the bride and groom do traditionally see each other before the ceremony. like, our officiant prefers to do the ketubah signing beforehand, so we probably will do that as well
Post # 13
we’re seeing each other before the ceremony for two reasons. 1) i am emotional, and i know that if we wait to see each other until i walk down the aisle, i’ll be a mess. haha. i wish i was joking, but i would cry through the whole thing and look like an idiot. and 2) our ceremony and reception are at the same place. between the ceremony and reception there is a one hour cocktail hour, not enough time for all the pictures we want.
Post # 14
At first, we weren’t going to, but we’ve changed our minds. My makeup and hair will be fresh and ready to go, we’ll have the light (our wedding will be in the late afternoon in November), we want to spend every moment we can with our guests, and of all the responses I’ve read on weddingbee, no one has regretted doing a first look, but there have been people who have regretted not doing one. Plus, those same people that don’t regret it say that the walk down the aisle is still special.
Post # 15
agreed with a few of the bees above.
we will be doing our ‘first look’ and bridal party pics at our reception venue before our ceremony. my best friend from college did it before as well, and we loved the intimate moment they got to share… and just overall “get the nerves out” before being in front of so many ppl 🙂
we lucked out that we are having our ceremony at 4pm 🙂
Post # 16
Our reception is also in the same place as our ceremony, so there will be an hour where they’ll flip everything around and make it a party place. So we’ll have a cocktail hour between the wedding and reception. I think that’s why I’m sort of excited about doing our pics beforehand. I’ll get to enjoy cocktails with my guests and my husband and then we’ll just dance the night away and not have to worry about not having enough time for pictures.
I, too, was worried about not having the special moment of walking down the aisle and him seeing me for the first time then. But like @meggyo, I’m an extremely emotional person, so I hope that by doing this, it will help me contain myself!!!
Thank you so much, bees!!!