(Closed) Seeing each other before the wedding??

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We did.  I didn’t have to convince my husband because he didn’t really care.  It actually made the day better because we had time to be alone before the ceremony (since you really won’t have alone time later).

Post # 4
2692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We’re not seeing each other before.  I just want to keep it ‘tradtional’ in that sense and surprise up until the very moment.  I don’t see anything wrong with seeing each other before but if he feels strongly about it, then maybe you should give him this.  Guys have so little say when it comes to weddings usuaully. If he truly wants this, then it must mean a lot to him.

Post # 5
964 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

FH was fine with it, but I did explain to him the importance due to our wedding ceremony timing. He had no issue with a first look and i am hoping it is an awesome and I am imaging it will be

Post # 6
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I was opposed to a first look at first- I wanted to be traditional, have him see me for the first time at the altar, etc. But seeing FL photos on here changed my mind. I’m pretty emotional, and I don’t want to be crying in front of 125 people. Seeing him before the vows will help calm me down. Plus, we’re getting married at a fabulous venue (a museum), and I want to take advantage of that. Once the guests arrive, we’re not going to be able to run around like kids, exploring the space. And, I want him to be able to admire me, tell me how beautiful I look, etc. 😉

Post # 7
121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I briefly considered it for the photos/time saving, but I still want the first time to be when I catch his eye coming down the aisle.

Post # 8
786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

We’re seeing each other before the ceremony. We’re taking pictures beforehand so we can enjoy the cocktail hour (and also not feel rushed – pictures in my family take like 2 hours lol). For Jewish weddings, you see each other prior to the ceremony anyways for the ketubah and bedeken so Im happy to get the extra time for pictures (we’ll do a first look) and then be able to mingle during cocktail hour.

Post # 9
1920 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I wanted to do first look so that we could get more photos before the ceremony. But Darling Husband was adamant that he wanted to keep it traditional and not see me before. I am so happy we did that. I have heard how special first looks are but to see his face for the first time as I was walking down the aisle, was incredible. It is absoloutely the highlight of the whole wedding. A moment and a feeling I will never forget.

Post # 10
11271 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

we personally didn’t care about not seeing each other beforehand.  in fact, we got ready together.  he had already seen my dress.  he helped pick it out.

Post # 12
1577 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My Fiance was entirely convinced by a recently-married coworker to do a first look. His big priority is to be a host to our guests… not to dissappear for hours, so the “first look” idea appealed to him despite his tradional-ness.

Our photographer also tried to tactfully bring it up and seemed to be working his way up to a pretty good convincing-us talk; but we kind of cut him off by agreeing right away.

Those are my suggestions: coworker or photographer. But in the end it’s something both of you have to want.

Post # 13
959 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We will be doing the “first look” and are completely excited for it! My Fiance wasn’t keen about the idea but warmed up to after our wedding coordinator and our photographer spoke to us.

Post # 14
269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I personally didn’t want to do a first look originally, but I have come around and we are going to do one. It’ll mean less time away from the guests, and it will be a nice little intimate moment for us. 🙂

Post # 15
4887 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We’re doing a first look and it’s one of the things I’m most excited about!  I can’t wait to have a private moment with him before the crazy begins.

Post # 16
1212 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t want a FL as I want that walking down the aisle moment, but I want to spend the morning with him. We’ll spend the night together, have a nice brekkie and then split up till vow time. That should be enough to tide me over 🙂


Actually we’ll also be setting up the venue with family in the morning also, then going our own ways to look pretty. Our photog was really opposed to a Fl as she said she’d rather work her ass off to catch that magic moment, than just changing things up for convenience.

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