(Closed) Seeing Eachother PreCeremony

posted 13 years ago in Logistics
Post # 17
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We are having an evening ceremony (starting around 5:30 late fall) outdoors.  So it isn’t really reasonable for us to do photos AFTER the ceremony.  It’ll be almost dark.

So we’re doing all of our photos beforehand.  I’m happy with it though.  I think the walking down the aisle moment will still be WOW, anyway.  I mean, thats the culmination of everything!

Post # 17
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We are having an evening ceremony (starting around 5:30 late fall) outdoors.  So it isn’t really reasonable for us to do photos AFTER the ceremony.  It’ll be almost dark.

So we’re doing all of our photos beforehand.  I’m happy with it though.  I think the walking down the aisle moment will still be WOW, anyway.  I mean, thats the culmination of everything!

Post # 18
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Newbee

I *think* that FH and I are doing some photos beforehand but more after the ceremony as well. We want to have time to mingle at the cocktail hour, so we’re *TRYING* to not take a full hour for after ceremony photos… plus, I have a surprise for FH that I want to do just before going upstairs for dinner and I *really* don’t want to delay dinner starting…

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Your wedding day is YOUR DAY… Not the 5-6hrs slot you rented out from your venue. So make the most of it. Seeing eachother beforehand is such an awesome idea. I’m all for it! I’d rather have more intimate photos then awkward walking down the aisle photos. LoL

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Well, It looks like it has all been said. We are going to see eachother, but I won’t have my veil on.  So, my photographer is going to "stage" him seeing me for the first time, but not down the isle.  During the ceremony it will be the first time he sees me with the veil, and I suspect there will be great photos to take then as well.

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

It was our photographer that convinced us as well and it makes perfect sense for all the reasons noted above.  We’ve got a lovely garden venue, so it will be fabulous to take a private moment away from the guests to see each other and take care of the pics of just the wedding party and immediate family. 

Besides, if we get the more formal shots taken care of ahead of time, that frees up the photographer to get more candids of everyone enjoying the reception.  🙂

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

Just to offer the other side, we decided very early on that we really wanted that magical moment at the ceremony when we saw each other for the first time.  Many vendors tried to talk us out of it because it makes their jobs easier to see each other before, but we always let them know that we were sure, so please don’t try to talk us out of it.

My brother got married over 10 years ago and one of the few things I remember is the look on his face when he saw his bride for the first time.  It was so amazing.  And I am happy to have most of our pictures be candid throughout the night – we plan to take a limited set of posed pictures with our wedding party and then take some of just us around the property.  We know we will miss most of the cocktail hour, but we are ok with that and I think it will be nice for us to have some time alone together as a newly married couple (well, alone with the photographer!)

I agree it is personal, I just wanted to throw another point of view out there 🙂

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

With all the family pictures that need to be taken, 1 hour doesn’t leave much time for pictures with just my new hubby and I.  I want to do pics before but I don’t know if we will have time.  I think I might just wait till that day, and if he could be ready, meet him at the church maybe 1 1/2 hours before the wedding so we have an hour for pictures.

Post # 25
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

We recently decided to see each other before the ceremony BUT I’ve got a surprise for him. When I first see him, I will be wearing the dress I originally picked out (a casual light silk dress, and the one he is expecting), and we can take pictures in what I consider my real wedding dress. When I go down the aisle, however, I will have changed into the new dress my grandmother made me buy in a 30-minute shopping impromptu trip (something that is usually not me, very glitzy and formal), complete with a veil. I don’t care to take formal pictures with that dress, so we don’t have to retake any photos, and he will be super surprised. I never expected to be a two-dress bride.

Post # 26
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

I think its a romantic idea to wait until you see each other going down the aisle. We rush so many things in life and this is one day where time should stand still.

If you have a cocktail hour planned then really you should be ok with Photos. Afterall you don’t want to show up until you are announced at your reception right?

Post # 27
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

We’re waiting. It is a little bit of a pain because the ceremony is at sunset and I really want some pics of Fiance and I without lighting just the 2 of us outside by the ocean.  So we’ll be rushing to get a few before it’s too dark and formal portraits with both families together will have to be done with lighting… missing the cocktail hour is okay with me. It’s rushing some key shots that frustrates me. That said, we still decided not to see each other.  It just seemed the most romantic.  And we decided to forego practicality.  It really is a personal choice.

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Do what you’re comfortable with!

I was so adamant about not seeing my groom beforehand but out of logistics, we decided to see each other..I really wanted that magical moment and my photographer convinced me I would still have it during our private moment together.

Like Suzanno, I don’t think it would make it any less special. I’ll still be a wreck walking down the aisle (cue: waterworks!). We’ll get more pictures done and won’t feel rushed plus we can spend more time at our own party. Whee!

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