(Closed) Seeking Adoption Advice

posted 4 years ago in Babies
Post # 1
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1146 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Hi Bess,

Pretty much ever since my husband and I got married, I’ve had babies on the brain, while he hasn’t. We decided to wait, and we’ve been talking about it more recently, but haven’t started actively TTC or anything. However, I’ve been thinking about adoption a lot lately. I know I’d love to have a baby of my own, but I have really felt a strong pull towards adopting. I’ve spoken to my DH about this, and he told me to go ahead and find out information, since I know the process generally takes time.

So I guess I’m looking for general information here from other bees who have adopted, are in the adoption process, etc. Are there adoption agencies that are recommended over others, or is it better to do it privately – if so, how does that work? I’ve Googled adoption agencies, but the reviews I’ve read on some of them aren’t the best. So any tips, advice, places to look, etc. would be great!

If it helps or matters, we live in Iowa.Thanks!

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Post # 2
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

following this thread.  we have been trying to conceive for 9 months now.  given our ages, we knew are chances were slim.  he is 41, me 40.  we decided a month ago we wanted to pursue adoption.  we were all excited.  we went to the information/orientation meeting (required to get the application in the state of texas) and had our hopes crushed.  we have to be married for 2 years before we can even apply and start the process with the state.  it would be the end of 2015 before we would be “licensed” to adopt.  we were told how desprately they need families, but that we were not stable enough to be eligible.  heart breaking.  we are in our 40’s, own our home, have been at our jobs 18 & 13 years respectively, have a more than adquate combined gross income, live in a decent neighborhood in a school district hosting two of the best schools in the state and we are not stable enough…bah!    so your topic certainly caught my attention and want to follow.

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