(Closed) Seeking Advice

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t think I have any helpful advice as far as increasing the frequency. Are you initiating or are you waiting for him too? If you’re not initiating, maybe try that.

As far as giving bjs: try it with condoms (perhaps even flavored). I too am not a big fan, but with the condoms you can’t taste anything but latex (or the flavoring) and his “happy ending” is contained.

Post # 4
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429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

If he’s watching porn watch it with him, that way youre the one who is there to take care of both your needs. Maybe suggest new things, toys/positions etc….new places, shower/living room etc…and I agree with PP initiating it is huge you cant always wait for him to do it! Fiance and I have a fantastic sex life but we switch things up all the time you know what they say “variety is the spice of life” Good Luck

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

What do you mean, “tastes gross”? I only give head after a shower…which means he gets it twice a day somedays…what does he look up on the porn sites? If you could find out maybe you could use that to your advantage and apply it to the bedroom. Oh yeah, go to a sex shop they have this flavored oil stuff that tastes awesome…it has a black top and a pair of red lips on it sorry I can’t remember the name because I’m out now…anyways, it’s not sticky and doesn’t leave that nasty plastic taste in your mouth.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I never give BJ’s unless Darling Husband is freshly showered, just because…well…guys can get sweaty down there and that’s gross lol. As far as the frequency of sex, DH’s and I’s frequency has went WAY down since I got pregnant. I mean way down, I’m too embarrassed to say how little we have sex. I asked him about it and he says its not me and that we can have sex, but it just doesn’t happen…so I feel ya on that one. Maybe just find ways to spice things up and initiate it more…give him a surprise BJ here and there and then maybe he will be more likely to get into it more.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Sorry to hear. 🙁

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Laelani:  Oh no!! I’m sorry to hear you broke up!! What happened?!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Laelani:  I’m so sorry to hear that. Are you okay? If it just wasn’t there it isn’t either of your faults. Sometimes ppl grow apart. I’m glad to know you gained a friendship from your experience.

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