Seeking advice on picking a date around an impending out-of-state move!

posted 2 years ago in Logistics
Post # 2
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2018

We got engaged in December 2017 and are moving July/August 2018. Since we are from 2 different areas in Illinois, I knew we would get married near my larger family, but would be planning a wedding from another state. I found it too costly and chaotic to travel back and plan from afar, so we opted for a destination wedding a few weeks before we move with immediate family. When I was reaching out to vendors for dates later this year, they wanted to meet in person and I would be traveling back to do so – I just couldn’t justify the cost. I, too, am very Type A/high strung and knew I couldn’t handle the additional stress of planning that along with a new marriage and move, so I had to prioritize.

Can you have a discussion with your Maid/Matron of Honor about availability prior to the wedding? Sharing your concerns and asking what she might be able to assist with may give you peace of mind. I’d recommend trying to sort as much as possible out early so that you know what is taken care of, then just confirm/follow up with vendors and contacts throughout the process.

Congratulations on all the exciting things!

Post # 3
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732 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Congratulations! And welcome 🙂 what’s the area like for weddings where you are? In busy areas venues and top photographers will be long booked up for key wedding dates in September already (think Friday/Saturdays) as it’s less than 6 months away now and still “wedding season”. It will depend on how much you want to DIY, how many people you want to invite (are your VIPs available for potential dates?) And what kind of day you want. It can be done!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

We moved overseas (DH immigrating to my home country) two months before our wedding, which we had in my hometown. I actually found it super easy to plan from overseas with the help of the internet, and two visits during our 18 month engagement. None of my family or friends really helped us plan either. I do agree with PP that things might be fully booked for September 2018 by now though. 

Post # 5
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1298 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I planned internationally (lived abroad, planned wedding on family holiday property NOT in hometown but in home country roughly ~3 hr drive from hometown). 

Because our wedding was being hosted on private property we had to bring everything in, so I hired a planner for minimal support. Basically she was present on-site whenever the property had to be viewed (~5 times because ultimately there were concerns about the septic system so what should have been 1 visit turned into LOTS).

Honestly, if we had held the wedding at a hired venue I don’t think the planner would have been necessary. Photographer, hair/make-up, DJ, etc were all booked via internet. I had hair/make-up trial and caterer taste-test while in the wedding-local for a long weekend.

I did take a week off before the wedding to be based locally to oversee final prep, but everything else was done internationally with the help of technology 🙂

Post # 8
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2829 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

hayleya :  I had a really great and easy experience planning so it can definitely be done!

Our venue was pretty all inclusive (ceremony and reception spaces, hotel rooms, getting ready room, all tables/chairs/linens/cutlery/plates, day of coordinators, bar service, catering) which was a godsend. We briefly considered getting married somewhere outdoorsy like a field or forest, but pretty much immediately changed our minds after thinking about renting plates, cutlery, chairs, generator, portapotties, etc. etc. I would definitely recommend a more all inclusive venue if you are planning from far away.

We booked our venue without seeing it in person first. Also booked our photographer, offiicant and ceremony musicians after skype conversations. 

We also did a lot of DIY, including flowers, cake, all decor and DJ+speakers (family friend who offered and was already invited). After we moved I wasn’t working for the 2 months before the wedding, so had lots of time to plan our DIY parts (and my mother was a great help at this point too). 

I brought my dress back on one of the visits to my home country (stuffed in a suitcase on the plane), and got it altered in the two months before the wedding. My bridesmaids ordered their dresses online from a regular clothing site (not specifically for bridesmaid dresses), they were all scattered across the world. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

I’d suggest a planner/coordinator. If you’re confident with most of it, but just want someone to help out with last minute things, you could hire a “month of” coordinator. Which is exactly what it sounds like: someone who helps with the month leading up to and the day of the wedding.

You could also have your dress arrive to your new home when you order it and get the alterations done there. Flying with it might be a pain in the ass, but it’s definitely doable.

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