Post # 1
My Fiance came home from the firehall today (different crew, shift exchange), and had been chatting with one of the FF’s about weddings. She was just recently married, and was happy to share her insight.
One of the things she suggesed is that they did pictures before the ceremony; that way they didn’t have to be away from the party.
Fiance, who up to this point has been super-traditional, but also positive and wants a lot of input; thinks this is a GREAT idea. He came home and told me.
I was floored. I brought up that this would essentially be the “first look” thing we had ruled out from our photographer, and we weighed the pros & cons, and decided it might be nice after all to have a time together in our spiffy outfits to talk and laugh and touch before the ceremony.
Any advice for first look / pre-ceremony photographs?
Anyone else surprised by their Fiance – either with a strong “yes” or “no” reaction to first look photos?
(edited for clarity)
Post # 3
@Ivorybuttons: I’m a little confused when you say you won’t be seeing one another in your wedding attire…do you plan to just do some getting ready photos and talk with one another at that point? If so, doing a first look won’t save you very much time, because you’ll still have to do all of the B+G and B+G+group photos after the ceremony. Maybe I totally read that wrong, if so let me know!
Post # 4
@indibee: oops, I should have explained that better.
The original plan was to not see each other until the ceremony; and keep the exact details of the clothing a secret. And that was kind of a big thing.
HOWEVER, this new plan: we will be seeing each other before the ceremony, but not having seen each others clothing choices before then, and having the reaction captured on film (plus doing the “posed” shots, including on the firetruck, willow tree, etc).
Post # 5
@Ivorybuttons: ooooh, ok, so a ‘traditional’ first look, lol. The couple photos of you alone should totally be first for that special feeling. *And also be sure to discuss whether you mind people watching. I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man and we watched their first look from the pews, and now I feel bad because it wasn’t really discussed and I sort of felt like we intruded on their special moment :-/*
Mr.ND and I are doing something a bit different before the first look and exchanging letters around a corner or a door first. We’ll read them while our photog captures our reactions, and then I’ll clean myself up and then we’ll do the official first look where we actually lay eyes on one another. There are so many options for you guys to consider! I’d use the search on the boards to check out all the different and beautiful first looks and ‘hands around the corner’ shots that bees have done.
So if you’re already in all of your wedding garb, you can be sure to get a TON of the photos done early. Just ask your party and your families and other important people you’d like in photos to be there at a certain time. You can even make up a little list of what order photos will be in so people can keep up and not be in the bathroom or off doing something. That photo itinerary will help keep things moving along smoothly, as long as your photog is cool with that (some don’t like specific lists).
How fun that he’s changed his mind. You’ll totally get more time to hang out with guests now after the ceremony!
Post # 6
Sorry I was unclear at first. I’ve seen some spectacular around-the-corner shots from other Bees, and yours sounds amazingly creative. We’ll have to brainstorm up something that suits the 2 of us, after I research as you suggested.
That’s a good thought about bystanders / privacy. Definitely scheduling our parties to show up later and being in a less accessible location are things I hadn’t thought of.
Thank you so much for your insight!
Post # 7
Definitely think about where and who you want watching- I’ve seen first looks ruined by a stray person in the background.
Other than that I can’t give much advice- Fiance was adamantly against a first look, and insisted that the first time he wants to see me is when the church doors open. This didn’t surprise me, per say, but I was surprised how adamant he was.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
We loved our first look, gawkers and all. We actually have a hilarious photo of our friends watching through the window. In that moment, noone else existed in the world except Mr. LK and I, so it really didn’t matter who was watching. Here are a few photos from that time.
Post # 9
@pinkfrog: Yeah, I thought my Fi would also be adamantly against a first look too, that’s why I was so surprised when he suggested it.
When I was planning to go dress shopping; I asked if he wanted to see my “I like this” picture file, and if he would like to come shopping: and he was very much of the opinion that he wanted to see my dress for the first time as I walked down the aisle.
@lovekiss: thank you so much for sharing your photos. I really do like the picture of your friends smiling from ear to ear at the two of you. As long as they weren;t distracting, that’s awesome.
Post # 10
I;m a few months late on this, but my Fiance was hell bent on knowing nothing about my dress my shoes, how I was wearing my hair until I walked that aisle.
We were originally supposed to start our ceremony at 4:30pm at the end of October that doesn’t leave much light for photo’s, so we ran our options.
We decided to do a ‘first look’ photo shoot gift exchange. Rather than leave each other’s gifts in our respective hotel rooms, we’re going to exchange them and do a toast with our bridal party at the spot where we got engaged, before the ceremony. He even let me buy fancy Vera Wang champagne glasses for the pics 🙂
After we switched our venue and were able to change the ceremony time earlier, we still had our hearts set on the idea of doing the first look.
It’s sweet too, because the way the photographer suggested we set it up, is to have our bridal party wait in the limo, or off to one side… and we can creep up to each other, so it’s our moment, just the two of us… and the photographers of course!!
I know your wedding is coming up soon… but I thought I’d share lol