(Closed) Seeking help from my fellow busty brides

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Ok, I’m not even close to being as busty as you but I chose a Grecian style dress with straps that are wide enough to conceal a bra strap and a faux-wrap deep v-neck. It’s a little too low in the back for a regular bra but I can probably use one of those bra extenders that let you lower the bra in the back. It’s really low-key dress which is what I like. The top also has enough structure that it will be possible to add some padding and just not wear a bra at all.

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Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Darn, those pics are huge. Sorry about that.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

I’m a 28H and I am wearing a mermaid dress. I am also 5ft2! 

I liked this dress because it downplayed my boobs and made me look actually in proportion! I am also not wearing a bra in this, some wedding dresses have built in support and if you get your boobs in the right place they stay there.

 

Dont be discouraged and go with someone more supportive of you and your choices.

 

i hope you find your dream dress

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

If you want something casual and comfortable, don’t go to a bridal shop. They’re all uncomfortable and restrictive and not designed to be worn with a bra. I was a two dress bride, thankfully neither was expensive. I wanted a non traditional dress. My first dress was a beautiful strapless pale grey dress with a slight fishtail/mermaid effect, from the “special occasions” section of a bridal shop. The shop said they could sew cups into the dress, but these turned out to be totally pathetic and not at all like real bra cups. I’m not even very busty (38C/D). So I went looking for another dress. I found a beautiful short (knee length) white mesh dress with matte white sequins sewed in patterns that mimicked lace at a non bridal shop that does cocktail dresses. It came with an ugly white slip, which I discarded and had a dressmaker sew in a satin lining in a champagne colour. I wore it with a normal bra underneath as it had a high enough back and slightly wide straps. The straps had lingerie straps sewn into them so the bra stayed in place and I didn’t have bra straps peeking out.

There are a bunch of online shops that have bridal sections that are not the traditional bridal shop style and that may work well to be worn with a bra, especially if you budget for having some alterations done.

https://www.modcloth.com/shop/bridal-fashion#

http://www.asos.com/women/occasion-wear/bridal/cat/?cid=21606&cr=6&CTARef=FE%7CWW%7Ctbdhed%7Cbrides&channelref=paid%20search&affid=14230&ppcadref=391021728%7C24851909208%7Ckwd-39278848754&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIn_ezisqC2wIVYbvtCh1BEQrAEAAYASAAEgJM8PD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

 

 

 

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

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woahthisjustgotreal2018 :  Your dress is gorgeous and looks like it will be comfortable as well, double win! I’m not quite as busty as others here but I will definitely need a bra to keep the girls on their best behavior haha. Your dress really compliments you well! 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

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lovegrowshere :  Thank you very much. The comfort level was part of why I chose it. I have work tight or corsetted things in the past but at my own darn wedding I want to have food lol.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2018 - Fremont, CA

Dear bee, I’m a 32ddd (on the brink of being a 4d, or, in other words, a G) and Rebecca Ingram (Maggie Sottero) dresses were the ones that flattered me the most (that’s even before alterations, so I am very confident). Also, my dress has a corset back and some boning, which structures everything nicely. You will probably need to order up in size and have it altered down on waist and hips. That’s what I did. I ordered a size 10, but my waist and hips are currently being taken in.

Look, before alterations:

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

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curlybee123 :  It’s a Venus dress. I don’t know if Venus Bridal in the USA is the same brand, but some dresses there have a similar vibe.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I second the Maggie Sottero dresses! I’m a 28J and my dress (Sottero andaMidgley) gives great support. I’m not planning on wearing a bra with my dress, which is something I never thought I’d say.

Remember when you order, they’ll order for the largest part of you and tailor it in. My chest gets a lot of support from the hidden corset at my waist, and the straps. If the sample you tried on fit at the waist and hips, it’ll probably need to be a bigger size for the bust which might account for some of the discomfort. If you try on the bigger size, you won’t get the support that comes from the boning at the waist.

On another note, I had the same experience as you as a bridesmaid. The dress shop lady told me I’d have to get a stick on bra, when I said they didn’t come in my size she said that I was lying. She went as far as getting the woman in from the bra shop next door, who looked at me and confirmed I was indeed the size I’d said. It was humiliating. I hope you have a more positive experience next time. Remember the dress is made to fit your body, not the other way around. Bridal seamstressea are miracle workers. You’ll find something you love, I know it!

Post # 12
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Helper bee

I’m a UK 32E and Hayley Paige dresses have done me well boob wise x

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I’m a 34H and I felt lace up backs with sweetheart neckline emphasized my waist the most. I hated the sheaths they made me try on. It didn’t look flowy on me on me know matter the size. It just made me look extremely top heavy and not in a cute way. I also wear maxi dresses Most days. Most wedding dresses are pretty structured. Maybe look into white bridesmaids dresses for a more casual look if that’s what you’re going for? Also Idk If this will help and you certainly have no obligation to alter what you say due to ppls ignorance. But for myself I find it easier to tell ppl I’m 34DDD rather than 34H or 32I. This keeps them from giving me annoying looks like umm yeah ok you don’t look that big. You know? Only if it comes up of course and I don’t feel like educating them on proper bra sizing.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I will say the same as PPs – there is likely to be a structured dressed that is comfortable when fitted to you, that won’t require a bra. I say that as a 34J/JJ who is wearing a strapless dress for my wedding. (I don’t know how many D’s I’d need to add for that to make sense to someone who doesn’t know about bras). 

I would recommend you try another salon – not everywhere I went gave good service but I had very positive experiences at the majority of places. Of course, as noted above there are alternative options if you’d be happier with something less structured and a bra. You’ll find something – just might need to try a lot on! 

 

Edit – typo

Post # 15
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Honey bee

My Rosa Clara strapless ballgown had a built in corset. I would check out her dresses. And if you buy from her shop, alterations are included.

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