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Jewish Fiance and I (good ELCA Lutheran gal) are looking for a rabbi to co-officiate (with a Lutheran pastor) at our wedding (Minneapolis/St. Paul area).
I will not be converting to Judaism, and though we do hope to raise children in both faiths, would not raise them exclusively Jewish. I know this is a sticking point for many rabbis, but that’s the deal.
We don’t have a date yet and would be willing to be married on a non-Saturday day if that’s a necessary condition for said rabbi.
Recommendations, please! Much appreciated.
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I had a very similar problem. Try interfaithfamily.com and click on “help finding a Rabbi or Cantor”. We actually had to go out of state but found one! Good luck and prepare for a long journey to sort out all the religious stuff. Feel free to PM me if you have any questions, I have been working on this for months.
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Post # 4
I was very interested to see your post because my Fiance and I are in the same situation–looking for a Rabbi who will co-officiate in MN.
Did you have any luck?? Any Rabbis to recommend?
Post # 5
@LBot: Unfortunately for us, no, no luck. We contacted Reform and Reconstructionist rabbis in the Twin Cities, in Rochester, in Duluth, in Madison (where Fiance is from), and Milwaukee. We even reached out to the secular humanist Jewish communities in Minnesota. We received a lot of very polite versions of “we don’t serve your kind here”.
However, the kiss-of-death words seemed to be “interfaith” and “co-officiate”. If you would be okay with having a rabbi be your only officiant, and if you would be okay with having a Jewish wedding, you may have more luck.
I think rabbis are generally not into co-officiating in any case. Many rabbis offered to perform a Jewish wedding for us, even though I am not Jewish. (I think making that offer was a big step for them.) But that wasn’t the best choice for us.
I did talk to one rabbi in Chicago, hoping he would have some leads. He said he did not know of any in Minnesota who would co-officiate or perform interfaith weddings, but that he himself would be happy to co-officiate at an interfaith wedding for us. His fee was $1,000 plus travel expenses, which wasn’t even close to being in our budget. But if you are interested, PM me and I will give you his name and e-mail address.
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I second interfaithfamily.com It is where we found our rabbi who want not only okay with coofficiating an interfaith marriage but doing so with my father who isn’t technically ordained. Although, his online certificate says otherwise! lol. We couldn’t find a minister to do it oddly enough so he stepped up.
Post # 8
I’m a Reform rabbi who just went to MSP to officiate the wedding of my godson. I had to get permission from Dakota County but that meant that I simply had to send them a copy of my ordination.