(Closed) Seen on Pinterest: Honeymoon Fund Jar. What do you think?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you have something like this at your wedding?
    Sure! It is cute and extra money never hurts. : (5 votes)
    4 %
    No, but I wouldn't mind if I saw it at someone else's. : (23 votes)
    19 %
    Definitely not - I think it is off-putting and tacky. : (91 votes)
    76 %
  • Post # 17
    Member
    394 posts
    Helper bee

    im a little on the fence about this…while i dont think its tacky..i dont know that its totally okay either…ive seen quite a few brides set up a “honeyfund” website where guests can just donate towards the couple going on their honeymoon when maybe they couldnt afford it all by themselves…especially in instances where the bride & groom have everything and don’t register…why not contribute to someones dream of having an amazing honeymoon and all around happiness?

    Post # 18
    Member
    9956 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    As someone else said, great idea for “at home” where the couple can toss in their loose change or the occassional paper bill

    But really really tacky ANYWHERE in public… especially at the Wedding Reception

    This truly is an example of begging at its finest !!

     

    Post # 19
    Member
    248 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I think it all depends on who your guests are. There are some wedding I go to and they do the money dance… this is a similar thing. I think that some people will think it’s tacky and some people will think it’s fun. You definitely can’t please everyone.

    I’ve also been to weddings where they think the garter toss and bouquet toss is tacky. You just never know.

    I, personally, like the idea of getting money for my honey moon but think it’s slightly tacky to straight up asking for it. Now, if someone else set it up… and you weren’t asking for it maybe you could get away with it 😉

    Post # 20
    Hostess
    14026 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I would keep my change in it around the hosue. It’s totally cute for that.

    Post # 21
    Member
    1101 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    If I went to a wedding where there was one I would NOT be offended by it, but personally would not put it at my wedding. It doesn’t bother me but it’s not my taste to ask people to chip in for our honeymoon.

    Post # 22
    Member
    328 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think its cute to keep *in your home* as a place for you and FI to deposit change. Maybe you’ll find enough for a nice dinner or something when you are ready to go! I would not display this at the wedding though. I think its a very blatant “give me money” gift grab and I would think its tacky.

    Post # 23
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    1359 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @karenlinebarger:  Now, the honeymoon registry I can get behind because it’s understood that that’s what the guests are giving as their gift. Plus it’s behind closed doors, so guests can give what they can reasonably afford without comparing themselves to other guests.

    The jar is in addition to any gift though, and it just seems like the bride and groom are trying to give their guests the shake-down and use the fear of public judgement to bully their guests into giving more.

    Post # 24
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    1237 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I don’t mean to threadjack but I kind of want one of those for our home instead of our tiny piggy bank. Anyone know where I can find a glass jug like that?

     

    I mentioned that I don’t care either way but I want to be more clear. If someone had it at their wedding I might contribute if I happen to have some change or single bills but I would not personally have it at our wedding.

    Post # 26
    Member
    1719 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think it all depends on who your guests are but I think a card box is nicer.   Like the other PPs, it reminds me of a “tip jar”.  //  The FI and I aren’t going to have a gift registry because we don’t need gifts right now. (We’re a LDR couple. Moving gifts is going to be a feat in itself!)   We’ve asked friends/family to tell others by word of mouth that we would prefer monetary gifts.  Since I’m Asian, our culture usually has red envelops/li xi with money for the bride/groom. 

    Post # 27
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    10289 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Not my cup o’ tea.

    Post # 29
    Member
    1488 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I would keep this around my house to throw spare change in, but never put it out at a reception.

    Post # 30
    Member
    1132 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I wouldn’t think a whole lot about it at someone’s wedding, but I definitely wouldn’t have it at my reception. I do, however, like the idea of having this in your own home for the couple to save up for their honeymoon. I may actually do this myself!

    Post # 31
    Member
    2695 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Awesome for your home; super tacky for a wedding.  I cringe every time I see this on Pinterest.  It seems pretty greedy and money-grubby to me.

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