Post # 1
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Helper bee
So I’m a teacher and a lot of my family and FI’s family also work in a school setting. I bascially need to have my wedding the Summer or there is no chance of me having a honeymoon and given the amount of important family members who work in a school setting it really would not make sense to do it any other time. I get done in June, I have to go back the second week of August. So that leaves June and July. I had considered three differant venues… but they are ALL booked up for this summer. Like seriously it’s ridiculous.. that put me at a Friday evening wedding… which was fine, that works for most everyone so I don’t really care and I get to save a little money. June was booked on Friday and Saturday pretty much everywhere I looked. In July every friday was available at the venue I wanted the most.
That left me with July 4th, July 11th, July 18th and July 25th. We talked about what day pretty thoroughly but we didnt talk it through with our families. We wanted to avoid July 4th because the area where we are getting marrried is going to be wayyyy to hectic and our guests are going to have difficulty finding parking and getting to our wedding due to a parade. The 11th is the week of my period and I seriously wanted to avoid that. The 18th is his dads birthday and I just dont want our anniversary to be on his dads birthday forever. I just dont think it is considerate. So we decided to do the 25th. We went to see the venue and loved it, so we booked it for the 25th. I really wanted to book and get a date set in stone.. due to how fast things will up.. I didnt want to take the chance of loosing the day. After we booked it, I let our immediate family know the date. It turns out that my stepsisters cousin is getting married on the 26th out of state and her daughter (my niece) is supposed to be in the wedding. This cousin is from the other side of their family. Both of my step sisters are going out of town. We have a close-knit family and I really want them to be there but I honestly just dont feel like going through the strain of selecting another date and I dont even know if we could change the contract? There is a chance that she might be able to catch a flight out the next morning but I dont know.
Choosing a date was seriously the most stressful part of this for me. What should I do? Leave the date or attempt to change it to either the 18th or the 11th?
Post # 3
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Busy bee
If you could move it to the 11th, you could probably move your period… I mean, I know this might sound terrible, but I’ve done in before with birth control for vacations and such?
Post # 4
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Honey bee
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
If you just booked it, you should be able to change the date. Your FFIL may not mind that it’s on his birthday. I’d run it by him- he might actually like sharing the day with you (you could have a special cake/sing happy birthday at the reception.)
And ditto on that you can change your period w/ BC- I did for ours.
Post # 5
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Busy bee
@Korenne: I agree with PP in that you should book the 11th and move your period. I never once considered ruling out a date (with as difficult as it can be to nail down a summer date) just because of my period. This reminds me now that I need to calculate it out and see where mine falls, and if it’s the wedding week, I’ll move it up a week or 2. There’s plenty of time to do this without messing with the effectiveness of your birth control.
Post # 6
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Busy bee
- Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta
@Korenne: I am getting married 8 days after my cousin and a week after two good friends of ours. We are in eachothers wedding! I know what it can be like to work around several other people’s weddings!
They should still be flexible, if the other dates are available.
My wedding is the same weekend as the birthday of three of my cousins , my grandma and my Aunt. Whatevs.
Do you have overlapping guests? I really doubt they would attend both and they would have to choose.
You can take pills throughout your period so it doesn’t come. I have done this a few times for vacations.
Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
My husband and my anniversary is on his aunt’s birthday. No big deal. He would probably consider it an honor. 🙂 But I got my period the week before my wedding and my period tends to linger on a bit, so I was worried I was still going to have it on the wedding night. I didn’t, so that was a relief. I wasn’t on any form of BC before we got engaged and the date was the first thing I wanted to do. If you are on BC you can talk to your Gyno about using the pill to change the date of your period. It’s worked for a lot of people…
Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
@Korenne: First, I’m sorry you are stressed out about dates- I know that was the most stressful thing for me so I have been there, and it does suck. But on the bright side, most places are totally fine with moving a booked date, especially if you just booked. I would just see if the 11th is available- it’s really easy to change when you have a period- that’s not a big deal and not wirth getting stressed out about. Plus 7/11 sounds like an awesome anniversary! If 7/11 is booked, I would do 7/18. My sister is getting married on her FBIL’s birthday- he’s a groomsmen- he doesn’t care and it was the only day that month open. If both days are full, then the wedding is on 7/25- not everyone is going to be able to make any wedding no matter what the day is. Maybe she can get a quick flight between the two if she really wants to be there, but then at least you tried to move it. Try to stay positive- your wedding is going to be great no matter the day or who can make it.
Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
I’d move it to the 11th. Then you still have time for a honeymoon before you have to work in August. The 25th didn’t leave much time. And skipping your period is no problem on birth control, I do it all the time as do many many many other women.
Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
@Korenne: I personally would call he venue back ASAP and change it to the 11th. Then I’d get on birth control a couple months before the wedding to throw my period off. I did that once for a tropical vacation that I had booked. I realized that the day we leave for vacay was the day that I was supposed to get my period. Yea, no thanks. The birth control delayed it until after we got back from our trip.
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