(Closed) Selecting menu before tasting for the RSVP

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1205 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I would suggest doing your first option. Very few guests are likely to be very curious about the kinds of fish you’d serve, in much the same way they won’t be likely to question what kind of sauce/seasoning would be on chicken. If someone asks for more details, you could either explain the situation or inquire if they’re concerned about food allergies.

Many guests might not even remember what they chose, and this way you get a count and can accomodate more requests. I think a lot of times when people specify menus on the RSVP cards it’s to show off the menu. Nice, sometimes, but not necessary. 


Post # 4
163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I was in a similar situation, and left the options vague (chicken, beef, & veg). However rather than words, I had the graphic designer use a chicken icon, a cow icon, and carrots. It’s adorable. :). The planned menu is a little more planning to keep track of, but since chicken tends to be a little cheaper, you can save a bit of money here.

While the combo plates are lovely, it tends to be a lot of food & likely a lot of waste. If you’re having a cocktail hour or anything like that, people won’t be STARVING for your dinner and won’t necessarily appreciate it.  Again, the cost is likely more than than with option #1 so don’t feel like you have to do it just because you can’t be specific on the menu.

Good luck!  

Post # 5
45 posts
  • Wedding: June 2010

I love what laurajane suggested.  I think those little icons are super cute on invites!  A space where people can list food allergies would be helpful.

Post # 6
310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

I would go with "chicken, beef, fish, veggie" etc. Be vague instead of selecting before you get to taste – especially considering you have so many options!

If people have allergies they will tell you (we didn’t leave a space on ours but people called or wrote it on the RSVP). However we did include a description of all 5 of our options which probably alerted people to things they may be allergic to. You may want to leave a line that says "allergies?" don’t say "special requests" as this may allow people to make unreasonable requests that are not actually allergies but moreso personal likes/dislikes! 🙂

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