(Closed) Self-Conscience.

posted 10 years ago in Dress
Post # 32
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5982 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am so sorry that you are going threw these thoughts and awful feelings again <<hugs>> I can relate to your situation. I also went through similar things and age 15-20 was the worst. I have always had a bad relationship with food. rather it be not eating or over eating. I still struggle with it and probably always will. The wedding was hard for me too. But after the wedding, i am proud to say that looking back at my pictures and i look great 🙂 and i have a feeling you will do the same…

with that said, I want you to know how absolutely beautiful you look in your wedding dress. You look so amazing and you should be so proud of yourself for being healthy. You are such a strong and wonderful person ot be able to fight the awful feelings you had. Dont get down on yourself because some of those feelings are coming back. there is so much pressure these days to look as thin as you can on your wedding day. it actually reminds me of HS….at least to me…everything was about how you look! I hate that it is like that. And maybe it is not like that for everyone but in my little world it is/was and i think most people who have self image issues probably agree. stay strong girl! Just keep reminding yourself how important your health is. You look so healthy and beautiful in your picture. You are truly blessed to be such a beautiful woman and you are going to be a beautiful bride! 

I wish you the best of luck. and please if you start to notice some old ways coming back please try and talk with someone who can help. maybe whomever helped you last time. 

Post # 33
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606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

You look beautiful in your dress.  It could not be more perfect.  I do agree with PP that if you are aware of feelings coming back you should maybe proactively seek a little counseling. 

Post # 34
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673 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

You look stunning. You’re a beautiful girl and will be a gorgeous bride. Coming from a bee who struggled with an eating disorder and consider myself “cured,” these mental demons never really go away. I have 8 months until my wedding and not a day goes by that I don’t think about body image and if I’ll be “good enough” on my wedding day– but I tell myself that I’m healthy and that’s where real beauty lies. I think about my fiance and how I want to live to be a 100 with him and it keeps me from falling into bad habits. Practice being strong and positive and you’ll find it gets easier. And know that you’re not alone because other girls have undoubtedly gone through the same problem.

If these thoughts are eating away at you, you could consider talking to someone. I’ve never done it myself and often wonder if it would help me.

Please let us know what you think and know we’re supporting you!

<3

Post # 36
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91 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@His Lil SantosGirl:You look beautiful!!! You have the perfect proportions for this dress!

Post # 37
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91 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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@Gilde37:agreed!

Post # 38
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3295 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i think your dress looks stunning on you! you are going to be a gorgeous bride! best of luck to you 🙂

Post # 39
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2203 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I love the way the back of the dress is cut, I think it is very flattering on you and fits you like a glove!

Post # 40
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

As everyone’s been saying, you truly look amazing! Still, I totally understand your feelings, and that they have nothing to do with reality. I struggle with the same thing most of the time, and it’s a daily battle for me to try to see myself as others see me and not give in to my own feeling of self-disgust, however unwarranted I might know they are. Good luck to you!

Post # 41
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

You look great!  Your waist is really tiny but you’re still curvy–you have quite an enviable figure!  I haven’t experienced an ED myself but I have a lot of friends who did and it makes me so sad to see them do these unhealthy things just to have a sickly thin body.  I’m glad you seem to be on the right path now and I wish you all the best with your wedding and with staying healthy!

Post # 42
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238 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You look absolutely gorgeous in that dress! I haven’t been through what you have been through, and the other girls here have given you some very good advice, but one thing I like to do when I get down on myself is to try and imagine a 90-year-old me looking at pictures of current me.  Do you think the 90-year-old you would look at those pictures and see any of the flaws you see? Of course not! One day you will look back at your wedding pictures and think, wow, I was a stunner! And you are!  I know this is pithy, but maybe it will help a little ;o)

Post # 43
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222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

i know that I think you have a great figure.  I’m sorry you feel this way and your habits make it hard for you to realize that.  I’ve had weight problems too, maybe not as serious as yours though, but  I hope this still helps.  Although i’ve never been really underweight or really overweight, I know what it’s like to look at pictures of yourself and think of what could improve.  Even at my lightest about 10-15 pounds ago I didn’t think I was perfect, but now looking back on those pictures I realize I had nothing to complain about then, and at how crazy I was.  It’s always easy to wish for what you don’t have.  I’ve never doe this before but I just thought of something.  If you took a picture of yourself, and cut the head off, then laid it in an arrangement of pictures of other women of your size, maybe it will help you realize that those women look good and so therefore you look good because you look like them.  Just a thought.

Post # 44
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I just wanted to add my voice to the “you look amazing” bandwagon. I too can relate to what you’re going through, and it’s wonderful that you’re taking care of yourself.

My first thought when I saw the pic? “Wow.”

Post # 45
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

You look awesome in that dress, picture perfect! trust me I wouldnt say it if it wasnt so.

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