Self Conscious about ring!

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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5002 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Well I think the ring is lovely but I see what you mean that it’s a little big/blingy if you’re more conservative. I certainly wouldn’t judge you for it, but if you aren’t happy with it I think there are some options. I would say either don’t put a band with it, or maybe talk to your Fiance about having it reset as a solitaire without the halo? I think that would tone it down a lot. Could you somehow have some of the current little diamonds on the halo and/or bands turned into a wedding band and then just put a solid white gold band on the engagement ring? That would be really classic and pretty!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think your ring is beautiful! And I don’t think it’s too big. I definitely think it’s a classic style ring. And I love that he had his grandmother’s stone reset.. such a lovely background to the ring ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
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5011 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

Aren’t you a lucky girl getting that as a family stone! It is big and the setting is blingy, but it looks beautiful.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I really like the ring! It’s not overwhelmingly blingy, in my opinion at least.

Post # 7
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499 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Embrace the bling! You are lucky to have received an heirloom stone, so lovely!

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper

@JMBred:  Sorry, I know you don’t want to hear this, but … HOLY SHIT, that sucker’s BIG! LOL!! The setting is very classic though, and it is seriously gorgeous. I would not consider it gawdy or “too blingtastic” — it’s just a big beautiful stone that is bound drop some jaws. Rock it, sweetheart. If you feel like telling anyone, you can mention that it’s his grandma’s stone, but you don’t owe anyone that explanation. It’s none of their business and if anyone is going to judge you or assume you’re high-maintenance, that’s their problem not yours. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

It definitely isn’t something I would choose myself. I’m not a fan of showy stones or halos, so, my opinion is probably a bit tainted.

I think it is showy and blingy, but as I previously said, it contains a lot of elements that I don’t like.

What matters is whether or not you like it. I wouldn’t be worried about impressing other people or making the wrong impression on them. If you like it, keep it. If not, change it for something different if your SO is cool with the idea.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

It’s beautiful, but too big for me. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m not a fan of huge rings for myself cuz it’s not my style, but I certainly think it’s gorgeous!

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

My eyes just bugged out of my head a bit. It is lovely. Stunning, really. I mean, wow! But I could not see myself wearing a ring that large and blingy every day. I love halos on other people, but they felt “too much” when I tried them on for myself. It just would not suit me.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Honestly just tell people the stone is an heirloom when they see it.  Then they will feel bad about their reaction to it or change their reaction to it.

If someone bashes your heirloom its sort of like kicking the person it belonged to.  They might then turn around and say something petty like oh makes sense I didn’t think you could afford something like that but then you will know they really are petty.

If you love your ring that is all that matters.  Your just going to have to develop a tough skin about it.  Almost everyone here on the bee has had their rings bashed at one point or another no matter the size, stone, etc.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

@JMBred:  

If you saw someone wearing this ring would you assume she’s high maintenance or spoiled?

Who cares what other people think?

The ring is beautiful, not too blingy at all and definitely a classic, IMO. I’m guessing that you’re feeling a little anxious not so much because of the size or proportions of the ring, but rather because the stone in the ring is a diamond. Am I right? For example, if it were a large, chunky turquoise ring would you be less likely to feel self-conscious?

I relate to your feelings, though. My e-ring and wedding band combined are 2.25 carats and I remember when I first put them together, I felt a little overwhelmed and self-conscious too. I wondered if I had gone too far or if people would think it was too much, or tacky.

Fast forward about seven months later and now I’m thinking of adding a halo.

Whether you’re a flower child or a fashionista, diamonds go with everything. My advice is to enjoy your gorgeous ring and keep wearing it every day. I am betting that you will feel more comfortable with it as you get used to it.

Good luck!

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