Post # 46
lightningbumble : I struggle with my self image and self esteem and always have. There was a lot of conflict within my family growing up so I found myself tip toeing around trying not to cause additional strife. In my head I had to be perfect to accomplish this. Perfection is not attainable and I have unrealistic expectations for myself. This is what my self esteem issues are based around.
I’ve actually been told all my life and by many people that I am pretty or that I could or should be a model. This positive feedback has not changed my mindset. Self esteem comes from within. People could shower me all day long with compliments but I still have my own interal battle to overcome.
Post # 47
newbee33 : Love our To Do list and “Be Awesome” item. A few months back I started a daily gratitude list and it has done wonders for re-wiring my negative mindset.
Post # 48
It took me a couple days to get back to this thread but I read every single person’s responses and they were all incredible. Thanks to everyone who shared about wherever they are at and where they came from with regards to this topic.
I think we can all agree with what newbee33 : said: “Self-esteem life goals? My 3 year old niece who dressed herself the other day in a totally bizarre outfit. When my sister walked by her room she was standing in front of the mirror and high-fived her reflection saying “Perfecto! Really jazzy!” I want to wake up and feel like that everyday!”
Reading that gave me a huge smile! Maybe I’ll have to make “Perfecto! Really Jazzy!” a daily mantra. Lol.
Post # 49
I have pretty high self esteem and in general don’t worry too much about what others think of me.
I know I’m not the most drop-dead gorgous woman in the world and there are plenty of other women I’d consider more attractive than myself, but I’d hardly put myself in the unattractive pool either.
I was always told as a small child that I was pretty; however, I don’t know if that is truely a reason for how I feel about myself now or not.
Post # 50
I think I have decent body image. I’m an hour glass, and thin with just right amount of curves. I have plump lips, a symmetrical face and would be considered attractive by most standards. I dress nice, do my hair and makeup and keep in shape.
My problems lies within my self esteem. I don’t feel worthy or anyone or anything, sometimes I don’t even feel worthy of life. I have an eating disorder and have been for a decade now. I’m in therapy for it, but it’s not working. I think partly because I don’t feel like I deserve to get better, so I don’t bother or want to (if that makes sense). Sometimes I feel like even if I got admitted to hospital with health complications resulting from my eating disorder I would tell the doctors ‘don’t waste your time on me, there are more important, worthy patients to treat here’. My eating disorder is not about looking good – it’s makes me more sickly looking if anything and is destroying my teeth so it’s not about looking good – I don’t know why I do it really. I guess I like the feeling of control is gives me, perhaps it’s because I feel like I can achieve something if can lose weight or willingly starve myself?
I don’t even know. I’m rambling now. Sorry for the depressing post, but I guess it just proves you can know you look attractive and still fee shit about yourself and your life.