(Closed) Self-Esteem Issues

posted 6 years ago in Beauty
  • poll: My level of self-esteem is...
    I think I'm gorgeous and rarely feel down about myself : (22 votes)
    18 %
    I need my SO to tell me I'm beautiful every day to feel validated : (11 votes)
    9 %
    Even if my SO tells me I'm beautiful every day, it's only cuz he loves me. I'm not beautiful. : (20 votes)
    16 %
    I need constant reaffirmation. : (13 votes)
    11 %
    I'm only pretty with make-up on and my hair styled : (24 votes)
    20 %
    I am confident enough to go without make up on a daily basis : (32 votes)
    26 %
  • Post # 3
    873 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I struggle with this a lot.  Partly because of my weight, partly because of the lifestyle I am living now.  I do think Darling Husband only tells me I’m beautiful because he kind of has to.  Or at the very least, because he’s totally biased.

    Post # 4
    1152 posts
    Bumble bee

    I mostly struggle with self-esteem about my skin – my face is covered in acne marks from middle and high school that for some reason have never gone away! Other than that, I feel really good about myself. 🙂 Love my body, love my face (besides skin), etc. Of course, I’ll never turn down a compliment from FI!

    Self-esteem about my personality, however, is a different matter altogether. My parents have always been very hard on me and make rude comments about me whenever I visit them (which is often, for now). I never thought I had a self-esteem problem, but Fiance really thinks I do. He says I repeat things that my dad tells me way too often and that I obsess over the flaws my mom points out. Looks like I have work to do…

    Post # 5
    2425 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I’m torn between poll options because while I do wear makeup and style my hair most days, I don’t think that makes me not confident in my appearance. I genuinely like being girly and applying makeup, etc. I’m confident enough to go out without makeup for when I am running errands, etc on a Sunday and am just relaxing, but I do wear makeup most days.

    Every once in a while I have a bad day that I don’t feel awesome about how I look, but overall I think I am beautiful, and wear makeup to enhance what I have naturally. I don’t need constant reaffirmation from Darling Husband, in fact he tells me I am beautiful more than I need to hear it, it’s cute. But not to sound conceited, but he’s not lying or just saying it because he loves me. I believe others find me attractive as well, and confidence goes a long way. When you own how you look, I think you always are more beautiful than someone who looks insecure about it.

    Post # 6
    5011 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I’m a little torn. I’m mostly confident about myself but I do like that my husband tells me I’m beautiful, I do feel better when I’ve done hair and make-up and when I’ve made an effort; that said, I don’t wear make-up ever day and sometimes I’m quite happy being schlumpy. I do have minor self-esteem issues at times but I’m fairly good at handling them.

    I’m not quite sure where I sit in those options.

    Post # 7
    442 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I voted that i’m confident enough to go out without make up.  But I think that really just comes from not having time in the mornings.  I feel WAY better with it on though.  And my face/ hair isn’t really where I get down on myself.  It’s my weight and my wardrobe.  I have been a big girl my whole life and while I feel beautiful in the face I NEVER feel beautiful in my body.  So along with that I never feel like I have anything to wear to look nice.  Meh.  My Fiance does a great job of letting me know how sexy/ beautiful/ etc he thinks I am, I just struggle feeling that about myself most days. 

    I don’t let my weight stop me from doing things I want to do (mostly) so I feel good about that.  And I don’t go around feeling bad for myself or anything.  I just dont feel as confident as I maybe could.

    Post # 8
    3146 posts
    Sugar bee

    I feel pretty good about my looks most days. And no, I don’t need validation from SO but he tells me often that he thinks I am pretty darn beautiful so I am appreciative that he thinks so. 

    Even though I think I am fairly confident, we all have our insecurity issues.  I don’t usually run out of the house without some form of makeup (lip gloss and a lil bit of foundation at least). I would also love to put on some weight. Totally think I am too thin.  As a result, I rarely ever wear shorts.

    Post # 9
    1659 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I only wear makeup for special events.  Although compliments are welcome, I don’t need affirmation from anyone (DH included).


    Post # 10
    2891 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I don’t have self esteem issues except when I have a flare up (chronic health condition} then nothing helps. No amount of compliments help when your meds make you gain 40 lbs in a few months, you develop a beet red, sore butterfly rash on your face and your hair thins. : (  Luckily I only seem to go thru it every seven years but it lasts for 2! Yeah so definite self esteem issues right now. At least Fiance loves me anyway lol.

    Post # 11
    228 posts
    Helper bee

    I think I am naturally pretty, though we all have our flaws. But I have gained weight recently that I cant really lose due to illness & meds, so I’m not always super confident in my body & it’s frustrating. But I do believe my SO thinks I’m beautiful & sexy.

    Post # 12
    3626 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Ha, I voted for these three. Let me explain:

    I think I’m gorgeous and rarely feel down about myself. True. There are things I can work on, but overall, I think I’m objectively beautiful.

    I need constant reaffirmation. I don’t need it (ie – I wouldn’t think I was ugly if no one told me I’m pretty), but I will ask Darling Husband if I look pretty and I LOVE when he tells me I do! I fish for compliments. There, I said it.

    I am confident enough to go without make up on a daily basis. I wear minimal if any make up to work on a regular day. If I am going out after work, I will put on more make up.

    Post # 13
    2903 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I am only pretty if I have my make up and hair done…without it all, I look horrible and I don’t ever leave the house without it all done. I went months of trying to get up earlier than Darling Husband so he won’t see me without make up in the mornings….ugh. (I have very pale ugly skin so it shows all blemishes and etc easily) But I have always have been fairly thin so that isn’t really my struggle.

    Post # 14
    9578 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Overall I am fairly confident.  I go without wearing makeup almost all of the time (except if I’m going out to bars or a party or a date).  So hair and skin wise…I don’t have many problems.  I have days where I feel fatter than normal but I know I’m not fat.  If I gain weight I won’t feel good about myself so I will work to lose it.  Sometimes I’ll obsess about this.  That’s probably my biggest issue.

    Post # 15
    11234 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I chose the first option, and you don’t really have middle ground options for the rest of my feelings. I love it when Fiance tells me that I’m beautiful/look good/etc., and him never saying it would be a dealbreaker, but I don’t NEED to hear it. As for the last one, I can go without makeup, but prefer not to, and feel like I look better with makeup and hair done.

    Post # 16
    3421 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

    I don’t wear makeup 75% of the time. I wish I did my hair more often. i am Lazy and know I am pretty enough to rock my naturalness.

    I wish I did care a bit more. I wish I had my sister’s fashion sense. I wish I cared enough to wear heals ALL the time…But I would much rather be comfortable. My SO PREFERS me comfortable then done up. He finds me more sexy in PJs then in a va-va-voom outfit.

    So all in all…I wish I cared just a liiiiittle bit more

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