Post # 1
Do/Did you guys feel immense pressure from yourself or family to have the best wedding ever? I’m the first girl in my family to get married and I just have this idea of having the perfect wedding. I’m always looking at other people’s wedding on Instagram or bridal websites and is just enamored by the ideas the brides have or the personal touches they add to their special day and I’m sitting here like how did they think of that?! Lol. (Not really a creative person) Even though I know it’s only for one day, I just want it to be the best wedding my family and friends ever been to and essentially I don’t think that’s a bad idea but my mind is always racing with cute little things I can do or coming up with something new or fresh, when in reality I just want the day to come and be married! And I’m not really experiencing pressure from family per se but they are really excited since I’m the first to get married and I guess that makes me want it to be the best day ever!
Please share your experiences if you’ve dealt with it and advice on how to not let this wedding consume me! Lol
Post # 2
- Wedding: June 2015 - Surrey, BC, Canada
I’ve dealt with the pressure of comparing myself to others. Mostly it stems from the fact that our wedding is rather low budget, and we are attending 7 weddings for friends over the next year and ALL of them are spending at least twice, if not three times as much as we are. It makes me feel like people will think ours is “poor” and not fun and that they will have a “fancier more fun” time at the other weddings.
But I took a lesson from my FH who says… “WHO CARES!” He really doesn’t care what others think of him and I love that about him. It’s helped me realize that we are trying our best to have a fun wedding for our guests, and if they don’t like it, too bad. We are sacrificing a lot so that everyone, including us, will have a good time on that day. If they choose not to see our efforts and be grateful, then TOO BAD!
So I just tell myself that whenever I feel the pressure/comparison/jealousy well up again.
Post # 3
On my mother’s side, I’m the first grandchild to get married, so they are ALL making it a huge ordeal, wanting extended family to be invited and such. My mom had a very elaborate wedding, so she has big ideas about what my wedding “MUST” look like. I, on the other had, am having to remind her that it is NOT about napkin color and 6 tiered cakes and punch fountains….it’s about having everyone we love in ONE place for ONE day and experiencing that love.
Luckily, on my father’s side, I have 4 cousins that have already had their weddings and I think everyone has a realistic view of who we are as a couple and what to expect.
My Fiance has kept me grounded, like michy604
said. I try to keep in mind that while all these wonderful examples of weddings are beautiful, there can only be ONE day that is truly about us, and some of these awesome ideas just aren’t “us”. Sometimes I become overwhelmed with what I think people expect from us…but then I just take a step back and re-assess.
Post # 4
I like your fiance! lol…I tell myself not to care all the time and then that feeling comes back and I’m in a rut again. But I’ll start to tell myself that more or maybe even scream it out a couple of times lol. Thank you!!
Yeah the expectation of this big, fun wedding is the part that overwhelms me too. My Fiance is helpful too but I just keep most of these thoughts to myself. I might need to let him know and step back and re-assess as well. Thank you!!