(Closed) Self-Uniting Marriage License (PA)

posted 9 years ago in Erie
Post # 3
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Wannabee

I am also interested in the self-uniting marriage license and am in Montgomery County in Eastern PA.  I saw that someone had trouble in Delaware County and got the license in Philadelphia instead.  Delaware County refused them because they were not Quakers, which isn’t legal! 

So I guess I’ll just try to find the statues and the court case from a couple of years ago when a couple sued after being refused for not being Quakers… and hopefully it will go smoothly that way?  Has anyone done this in PA recently? 

Thanks!

Post # 4
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Newbee

We did ours in Philadelphia and it was a breeze.   Report any problems you have to the ACLU who litigated on behalf of the couples who were denied a few years ago. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee

I’m so glad this thread exists … we’re in two different counties currently – Lancaster and Chester but it sounds like it might just be a good idea to go to Philadelphia and skip the potential mess!

Post # 6
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Hi there,

I stumbled upon this searching for ‘self uniting marriage.’

Just today my fiance and I went to get our marriage license in Allegheny County.  We live in the City of Pittsburgh.  It was not any trouble at all – we just told them  what we wanted, they explained what we would have to do (say ‘I take you as my husband’ and ‘I take you as my wife’ in front of at least two adult witnesses who will sign as such), and then they are processing the application.  We will pick up the license after 3 days and they will further explain the legal requirements.   But it should be pretty simple and they gave us no trouble whatsoever! 

So there is hope for all PA residents.  We just moved here to be closer to family, and did not want to delay our wedding, but did not have anyone to officiate so that is why we chose this option.  The more I read about it, the happier I am that we are doing this.  It will be a very special ceremony and we don’t have to pay someone who doesn’t have any meaning to us just to get married. 

Post # 7
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@kmpriestley:

We are residing in VA but are getting married in Lancaster county PA. has anyone yet had any experiences with this particular county yet with the self- uniting marriage license? We can surely drive another 2 hours to Philadelphia, but wondering if there has been any trouble in Lancaster county with those licenses. Thanks so much, Matt and Natasha

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We got ours in Allegheny county with no hassles.  Actually just as we were leaving I remembered I wanted the self uniting and told our clerk.  All she did was write SU on it and when my fiance went to pick it up, that’s what we got.  I think if you go to bigger counties, you won’t have problems getting one despite the license costing more.  In allegheny it’s something like $70 or 75 while in Westmoreland it would have been $45.  Smaller counties may not realize that this option is available as they would rarely be asked to do one.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have a friend who applied for one in Allegheny county and didn’t have any trouble doing so.

Post # 10
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Wannabee

@labrat: who may act as witnesses in a self uniting marriage? Do they (or some one else) have to be ordained to officiate this?

 

Our situation is this, Dear Fiance and I want to be married in front of parents and siblings only. We were wonding if my sister and her husband could act as the witnesses and do we have to have some ordained (or who claims to be a priest/priestess) perform the marriage?

 

This would be in Westmoreland County.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

We are applying for a self uniting marriage lic.
I practice Buddhism and Fiance doesn’t practice anything so we qualify for one. You don’t have to have anyone ordained. You marry yourselves basically. Call your country clerk for more info.

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@sorrow_discord  As Miss Tattoo said, you don’t need anyone to be ordained.  We had my sister and his best man witness ours.  We couldn’t find the license the day of so had them sign it that week and dropped it off at the city-county building right before it was due.  I think you have 10 days to get it back to them (in person or via mail) after the marriage.  Just make sure where it says location of marriage, you put down an address.  I put Pittsburgh (shadyside), pa on it and they called me a day or two after dropping it off asking for an address so I just gave them our home address as there wasn’t a street address to the park we married in.  I hope that helps.

Post # 12
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Wannabee

sucessfully optained Self-Uniting marriage license in Montgomery County, PA August of 2014.   just be sure to mention you are interested in the self-uniting BEFORE you start giving your info to the clerk, she was a bit fussy to begin with and was upset when we told her at the end (she never asked, how was I suppose to know?)  no additional information was required; such as religion, etc.  very easy, spent more time finding a parking space than actually in the office!  $50 paid cash. valid 60 days. this was a great option for us! thanks PA

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I found this thread while looking for information on self uniting marriage.  We live in PA and it seems that obtaining the license should be no problem after the ACLU case, but I’m more concerned that the marriage won’t be recognized in other states as I saw in some of my reading online.  Does anyone know if there’s any truth to that?  I would hate for something to happen to one of us in another state and the other not have full spousal rights.

Post # 14
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Wannabee

mimi55 :  if you don’t mind me asking, how much did you pay total? I know it’s about 90 regularly but at the ottoman it say additional fee for self uniting is 100. I’m a little confused, is it just 100 or 190 total

Post # 15
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Wannabee

I know this is an old thread, but in case anyone stumbles across it while Googling (like I did), I just wanted to say that we were going to get our self-uniting license in Philadelphia because we heard many rumors that Delaware County (where we live) can be very difficult.  In reality, it was super easy! We just asked for a self-uniting license up front, and they did not ask us if we were Quaker or give us any problems.  It was also MUCH cheaper in Delaware County ($60, vs. $100 in Philadelphia).  So don’t be afraid to go to Delaware County – no problems there any longer!

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