- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
i am just venting here a bit but tell me if you have come across this and what would you do? it might make me feel better.
we now live in another country and will be going back home to ontario for our wedding. we are having a small wedding (40-45) and only 2 attendants. my son, 27, will be standing up with me and FH sister,33, with him.
my FH has a small family, only him, his parents and his sister. all others are in england. they are very close and i love that. however, his sister always expects everything to fit her schedule. when we were getting ready to move away, our families new for 6 months. his sister works a lot but always has tuesdays off. she never came to visit him on her day off. she always visited her horses. as you can imagine, our last months before moving was extremely busy, packing, special visas, logistics, etc. she kept wanting him to come to visit her at her horses 2 hours away, he told her he had a lot to do and suggested her to visit him on her days off. she never did, her horses were the priority. the week we were leaving, she was upset at him because she didn’t get to see him. who’s fault is that?
we came home for a week’s visit and the same thing happened. last day there, we were all supposed to meet up in our city (we were visiting my son and mom that day too) and she called and said that she couldn’t make it there in time and could we meet her half way at a different restaurant outside the city. i told him to go and my son and i went to visit my family as planned.
when we went home again in the fall to pick our venue etc, we knew we wanted end of april. (21 or 28). when asked which date we are looking at, my Future Mother-In-Law informs me that his sister has a horse show that she wants to go to on the 21st. so, we booked our venue for the 28th. btw, on that visit, we invited her to come and view venues with us on her day off. she chose her horse on her day off and only saw us for an hour between veiwing venues.
just recently, Future Mother-In-Law called and told us that the horse show is not the 21st, it’s 25th-29th. we’re not changing the date! we will be coming home for the wedding a week beforehand and you know how much ‘stuff’ will have to be done. well, his sister has the nerve to ask if we will go visit her those days at the horse show. seriously?? does she even realize there is a wedding? my family and friends are all rallying together that week to help with last minute details. my one sister is coming from halifax 4 days early to help me. his sister hasn’t even asked what she can do to help. she hasn’t even picked out a dress yet. we have not given her any duties for the wedding and my son will be doing the toasts/etc. frankly because she hasn’t asked.
i feel sorry for my FH because he is torn. i know she loves her brother but i think she loves herself more. mostly i just ignore it but when i think of it, i wonder how someone could be so selfish. (yes, she is single).
what do you think?