(Closed) Selfish for eloping?

posted 9 years ago in Elopement
Post # 32
672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@StinaBremm:  I agree with what you said. Where are you eloping to?

Post # 33
21 posts
  • Wedding: September 2012

As a bride I say it’s not at all seflish, but when My Aunty who I’m extremely close to, eloped I was extremely hurt!! So I probably can’t argue either way without contradicting myself!! I was gutted that she got married without me, but thinking of elopement in general it doesn’t bother me… 

Post # 34
314 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Wow, what a silly article. I love everything wedding! I even joked and told people (when they asked) that “what I plan to do with my MS in chemistry is be a wedding planner”. But for me and my Fiance I think eloping is the way we want to go. I was planning to do a small wedding and I love *pinning* inspiration and all the DIY projects. But with a recent move across the country (Florida to Cali) it just seems too much of a hassel to fly back to Florida to entertain everybody else.

Our plan: Invite his mom and sister, my mom and step-dad, maybe my dad (drama there) and just have a fun vacation weekend in Cali wine country. And yes, I still want a fabulous dress and professional photographer. My Fiance and I don’t go out often, we are home-bodies, so we don’t have many pictures of us. Even if it’s an elopement (or mini-DW for parents) why can’t we have nice photos to remember our day, to look back on the photos and see us smiling at each other. Luckily we don’t have a family who thinks they deserve a wedding…in fact, I think our parents would be ok if it was literally just us two and not include them. People who scoff at you deciding to elope are the ones being selfish because they aren’t supporting the couple in doing what they want.



Post # 37
1464 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@redsangria:  I agree, I am sick of the whole “it’s selfish” business. It’s just another way to put women down (because it’s always the bride who’s selfish, right?!) Granted, the examples in the jezebel article did seem ridiculous to me, but I’m not sure how prevalent a “fancy elopement” is.

Post # 38
4650 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@redsangria:  I’m with you all the way… why can’t we just live and let live with this stuff? Who cares how other people get married if that’s what they want? It’s your money, spend it however you want. If that’s a fancy elopement, cool. People really need to take a chill pill about others’ wedding choices.

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