Post # 1
Bees, I could really use some words of guidance right now. I got married back in July and we had a small wedding with only about 17 people including me and husband. It was intimate, casual and everyone was happy..except for the SIL who was getting married exactly one month later. SIL and her FH had the nerve to grope each other infront of her parents and my grandparents!! They also decided to take off and eat before supper (although i’m sure they were doing each other!). Me and SO were NOT happy with how they behaved as i’m sure a 70 year old couple does not need to see a 25 year old girl being felt up by a 34 year old guy. I mean come on! Grow up!!
Fast forward a month later to her wedding. Both her and her SO are half cut even before their vows are said. I don’t mind kissing; but save sticking your tongue down each other’s throat for the bedroom. Also, don’t flip your new wife’s boobs out of her dress at family pictures around kids that are 3 and 4 years old!
But here’s the real kicker bees. Me and SIL brother started dating when she was on a church kick. During that time we thought I was pregnant. She had the nerve to call me a whore, tell us that that should have waited til we were married and that she would NEVER do that.
Back to SIL. She started dating her SO when he still had his ex live-in Girlfriend. After about 8 months she moves in with him because, well, thats ok she’s changed. During the wedding all her so called friends tell a story about how her and her SO got drunk at friends house and they started to peel each other’s clothes off. They then went to the bathroom and did the nasty with the door unlocked and someone walked in on them!! I was SOOO PISSED!! I left the wedding shortly after.
This girl who made me and SO look and feel like crap for so many years was FAR worse than we ever were! I’m at the point where if I see her I see red. SO parents know about how she was to us and they don’t blame me for being so angry. Karma will get her in the end,(they won’t last as he has cheated on her multiple times already), but that does not cure all the hurt and drama she has created in the past. Sorry for the rant…I feel slightly better 🙂
Post # 3
@black_sheep64: This girl who made me and SO look and feel like crap for so many years was FAR worse than we ever were!
Dont let her get to you. Whether or not she was “worse” than you, who cares what she thinks anyways… why even let it bother you. F– her, it’s your life and you’re the only one that has to be hapy with it.
Post # 4
I understand honey. Don’t let her take up any more space in your mind.
Post # 5
I don’t disagree that her behavior is a little out of line, but I have to admit that it seems like your issue is that you’re taking this too personally. Let these people make fools of themselves, it really has nothing to do with you. There’s no point in getting upset over the choices other people make.
Post # 6
Why are you letting her bother you at all?!
Post # 7
Oh for pete’s sake…really? Your going to let this get to you? P.S. complaining about her airing your dirty laundry and then dumping it all over this forum harldy makes a person sympathetic…the point is all of this is in the past, you can’t change any of it, but you are in control of how you react to it….so your SIL is a piece of disposable road trash that likes getting her boots smoked on bathroom floors and getting groped in front of the elderly…not your area…next time you know your going to be around her, make bets with your SO about what she’s going to do next. Whoever wins, doesn’t have to do the dishes for a week, turn her into your personal show/casino and you’ll just be so entertained it won’t matter any more.
Post # 8
I would love to say the heck with her but she is, and will be in our lives up to a point. Me and my SO live in the same yard as his parents until our house is finished. We also farm together. Example, will be at his parents visiting them and she will come over and her attitude gets so bad I end up leaving rather than cause a fight. I really love my inlaws, they treat me better than my parents did by far. Calling her out on how she treats us would cause a huge rift for his parent. I mean it’s bad enough she only calls when she wants something or when its holidays(she lives 20min away). If there was a fight they would probably see even less of her. I did go overboard with the initial post, but Im damned if I deal with her and Im damned if I don’t.
Post # 9
@black_sheep64: you’ve vented and now i think you need to let it go. anger and hatred can be very toxic. don’t let her get to you. you’re still in your honeymoon phase, enjoy it.
Post # 10
What is there to call out? She can bang her husband in public if she wants and that has zero affect on yu. I am having a hard time understanding how her sex life has anything to do with you.
Post # 11
I’m confused by how she really did YOU wrong, she’s just acting disgusting and immature which just makes get and her husband look bad. What does it have to do with you?