(Closed) Selfish Sister? Who is right? Who is being too stubborn?

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 62
Member
26 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Ps maybe Im wrong, but the answer is obvious here, chose what is more important. Unless u just wanted to hear that u are “right” and ur sis is “wrong”, just to face her how bad she is to u. If you hope that she will change her mind because “ur wedding shall be more important to her than her studies”, you just skip our own question – what about you, what is important for you? 

Post # 63
Member
444 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

When considering a date, we made sure to pick a date that would be good for our immediate families because their pressence is important to us…We have families in grad school and didn’t want our day to be close to midterm/final so they wouldn’t be stressed out or unavailable (I’m in grad school). School is serious business and we would never ask our siblings to miss it regardless of the reasons.  I’m assuming that your wedding date is not one that is significant to you, in which case, you might just reconsider if you really want to have your sister’s presence and if not, then be prepared for the possibility that your sister may miss part of it.  It does sound like she’s being honest with you and letting you know her situation (she’s not being selfish or difficult..she’s simply telling you the worst case).  If the date you picked out is of significant, perhaps you can just do the legal marriage that day and have the party another day.  I also had a professor who said that the only valid reasons for missing a class is if we were in the hospital or dead.  I’m sure it isn’t the case, but she obviously won’t know until she get her schedule figured out.  I doubt she knows right now.  Either way, your wedding is your wedding and you should do what works for you.

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