(Closed) Selling brand new unworn dress DRAMA!

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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1075 posts
Bumble bee

@Lepidoptera:  

Hi XXXX,

Unfortunately I still won’t be able to allow you to try on the dress before purchase, as I mentioned I don’t want to risk damaging it before purchase. You are welcome to inspect it. I am also going to be sticking to my requirment of a paypal transaction only. Please let me know if you would still like to meet my Mom at [XXXX] as we agreed previously.

Thank you and have a nice day,

Louloudi

Post # 4
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750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Honestly this would make me very uncomfortable, something about her not listening to you about trying it on and not wanting cash really makes me feel like it’s a scam…

Post # 7
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6112 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

I can totally understand you not wanting her to try it on. Like batwoman said, just tell her you don’t want to take a chance with it being damaged. Suggest that she go to a salon and try it on if possible. However, I’m not sure why you are afraid of cash? That honestly seems like the most secure option (some people can make fradulent payments through PayPal). Does that area have problems with counterfeit money?

Post # 9
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237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I recently posted on a similar topic.  I’ve heard of some people offering to pay in-person with cash — which they conveniently forget and then offer to write a check.  Which is no good.  For me, domestic PayPal only with receipt of transfer.  I think the PayPal problems come when the person on the other end complains to their credit card company and they reverse the charges.  If you can prove they received it, PayPal will help.

Post # 10
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750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@Lepidoptera:  No, it sounds like she is trying to scam you. The fact that she has not acknowledged that you don’t want to let her try it on, and is insisting on a different form of payment, strikes me as fishy. Like a landlord on craiglist advertising from “out of state,” insisting you send them a check with $$ and they will send you the key. There is just something off about it, in my opinion. You’ll know for sure if she continues to ask to pay in cash and try it on. 

Post # 11
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1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@batwoman:  +1

Stand your ground.  I know you want to sell your dress, but you don’t want someone disappearing with it either!

Post # 12
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257 posts
Helper bee

I have to disagree with PPs. I would be very wary of buying a used dress without trying it on first. It looks like she is trying to come up with a solution that will work for both of you, and that you aren’t being receptive to that. Why don’t you let her try it on? Regarding the cash–she probably thinks you would prefer cash, because most people do. Have you ever tried to do a PayPal transaction and have it go through immediately? I have not, so I don’t know one way or the other. But I would also be upset if I transferred the money to you, then I was standing there with your mother while you check your account, and if the transfer takes an hour to show up, your mom would just leave with the dress and my money. I think you need to put yourself in her shoes. I know you are only trying to protect yourself, but so is she.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Lepidoptera:  eh, I would just tell her your reasons for not wanting anyone, not just her, trying it on and the payment method you prefer. If she doesn’t like those conditions she will walk away and no harm done. Was this dress altered to you already?

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