Post # 1
I’m sure the general consensus of this is that it is frowned upon, but I stumbled across something on Kijiji (Canadian Craigslist) and it caught my eye.
A user has posted:
Multiple BNIB Cuisinart appliances
Multiple BNIB kitchen accessories (bowls, cutlery, serving platters, canisters, bakeware, etc. Stuff you’d register for.)
Gift cards to various places
Wedding dress, tiara and jewelry.
Almost all the posted items have a Bed Bath and Beyond sticker on them that is visible as well, so it’s pretty plain to me to see that these were not impulse purchases made by the couple that now need to be sold.
I don’t think there’s any doubt that what this person is doing is selling a large portion of what they got from their registry. Nobody just HAPPENS to get a half-dozen Cuisinart items, a person would register for those or there’s a much better chance they’d get a mix of brands if they didn’t specify exactly which items they wanted on their registry.
And I don’t think the person got duplicates because most registries remove an item once it has been purchased, don’t they? It looks to me like they registered with the intent to resell the gifts for money instead of just asking for money.
So what’s tackier, asking for money flat-out or asking for gifts of a higher value ($50-200 new) with the intent to resell them or return them for cash?
Post # 2
Asking for stuff with the intention to sell it and pocket the cash is shady as heck.
Hopefully that’s not what this person has done; perhaps they had an extremely high, unexpected expense after the wedding and are selling their gifts because they’ve got no choice. That’s the story I’ll tell myself because I don’t want to lose all faith in humanity.
but yeah, registering for high-end stuff with the sole intention of selling the gifts = way worse than just asking for money.
Post # 3
That is pretty messed up.. but then again, we don’t really know how they got those gifts. People giving gifts can get whatever they want.. so maybe they really were given duplicates, or many of the same item. And, some people don’t buy from the registry, sometimes they buy the item from another store so it wouldn’t be taken off the list.
I do agree that registering for things for the sole purpose of returning them for cash is shady.
Post # 4
It seems strange that they would be selling those things on Craigslist if they are from Bed, Bath and Beyond. Believe it or not, you can return gifts from BBB for cash.
Post # 5
I’m not sure if the ad states it’s used, but my first thought was actually this was a broken engagement too close to the wedding. This happened to my best friend. Most things she was able to return, but there were still others for a reason or not she had to keep. Just a thought that maybe this couple never married.
Now, saying that, I do also think it’s wrong to keep gifts for an event that doesn’t happen, so she should’ve returned them to the stores if possible. Question I don’t know the answer to – if you return gifts to the registry, does the original purchaser get money back or do you only get a gift card?
Post # 6
kittycatpancake: Asking whether or not straight up asking for cash or registering for expensive stuff *with the express intent* of selling/exchanging for cash is tackier is like asking whether or not you’d rather be hit in the head with a hammer or a brick. 😉
Let’s hope previous posters are right and there is an innocent explanation for what you saw.
Post # 7
I thought maybe they were selling all that stuff because the marriage didn’t work out.
Post # 8
The person who posted these ads just actually posted on a facebook buy-and-sell group I’m in using the same pictures as from the ads!
Her facebook is public and they did indeed follow through and get married. They got married 2 weeks ago (!!) and by her facebook postings they’re very certainly still together.
I’ve just never seen something like this before, and I too am wondering why they don’t just take them back to the BB&B since I do know their return policy is good.
Post # 9
kittycatpancake: just ask her on the fb page!! haha I am dying to know! Pretty stupid to be selling them via facebook so all of your “friends” can see you selling your gifts. lmao
Post # 10
Ls413: You cannot get cash back for items there. It is in store credit.
Post # 11
That’s shady as hell. Just don’t register. You’ll get checks instead. It’s not that hard.
Post # 12
chrissyjm: yeah the etiquette for broken engagements is to return the gifts to the sender, not the store for cash! ::facepalm::
Post # 13
Reminds me of that Melissa Joan Heart movie “My Fake Fiance” — which I loved btw, never thought I’d see it in real life though!