(Closed) semi-destination guest list

posted 8 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
1161 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Future Mother-In-Law did a similar thing.  I think she just didn’t understand the smallness of our wedding, and so I explained to her that we are having a very small guest list with close friends and close family only.  I assured her that my parents aren’t inviting a bunch of their friends, and that we aren’t inviting distant relatives from my side.  Once we talked about it, she was fine (even though my Fiance kept saying crazy things like…”well, I haven’t talked to this person in 10 years, but 11 years ago I went to his wedding, so maybe we should invite him…”  I eventually won those arguements as well).  If you can blame it on the venue size, that is an easy out, but you also have every right to simply say “we want to be surrounded by people we are close to on our wedidng day.  We are choosing not to invite people who aren’t an important part of our lives”

So, I imagine if you talk with her, things will be okay.  However, it is gong to be important to keep the guest lists “similiar” on both sides of the family so that the FI’s family doesn’t feel slighted.  For instance, if you say he shouldn’t invite second cousins, then you probably shouldn’t either.

Post # 4
743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

What about a mainland reception after the honeymoon?  You don’t need to go all out again (think “backyard BBQ) but you could wear your dress a second time, see more people, AND give a huge olive branch to your new husband’s family!



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