- 8 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
I’m having my wedding in Hawaii, where I’m originally from. So half of my side guest list is from hawaii and the other half is from the mainland. My fiance’s guest list is all from the mainland. We are looking at having less than 100 people attend and I know that everyone I’m inviting will be attending. My fiance’s guest list is questionable. His family and friends are pretty well off, so money shouldn’t be a problem for them. We are getting ready to send out the save the dates and my fiance’s mother just sent me an email with 20 people’s addresses and she said that she’ll be sending me more. And now I’m freaking out. I really don’t want to go over 100. And my fiance said that we probably should invite all those people, even though they’re not family and are his mom’s friends. His parents aren’t contributing anything and my fiance hasn’t even talked to them about their wedding duties. We’re paying for almost all of it, my mom will be paying for a little bit because she can’t afford it, and the only people she wants is family (which are already included in my half). So now that my fiance’s guest list has gone up, we’re trying to trim our guestlist. I just feel terrible because I gathered up everyone’s addresses, so now they’re under the assumption that they’ll be invited. And I was planning on letting all the singles on bringing a date, but now I think I’ll eliminate the +1. I guess I just don’t know what to do and I’m freaking out. I’ve been so stressed since this whole process started.