- 7 years ago
- Wedding: February 2011
Alright, we have less than 3 months until the wedding and he STILL HASN’T CHOSEN HIS GROOMSMEN! He’s thinking about a friend from high school but isn’t sure yet and doesn’t know who would be his second pick. I told him that we can’t get the tux situation taken care of until we know what their sizes will be so we neeed to know who he is having. His friend is a bigger guy while every guy in his family is fairly average sized but random heights. There is no basic size for all of them and I don’t want to get a suit for our son worked out until I know who will be cheaper for the regular suits.He just keeps saying that there is still pleanty of time for him to pick so I don’t need to worry. HA! Somehow I doubt THAT will ever happen.
Then there is his answer to every question I ask…”I don’t care. The wedding matters more to you than me so you decide.” meaning he wants to get married he just doesn’t care about the details. He also refers to it as MY wedding. It’s always, “well it’s your wedding so you decide.” I asked him if he would prefer me to go without a veil or spend money on one and…”I don’t care. I’m sure you’ll look good either way.” What does that mean? I asked him about a cake topper I found and, “I don’t care. You designed the cake so you pick the topper.” I think I’m going to make a list of everything I want him to do and leave it for him to work on while I’m gone. It’s just so frustrating!
The only things he really cares about for the wedding are: the colors, the location, the pastor doing the ceremony, and the food we serve durring the reception. He doesn’t seem to care who is in the wedding party, how many people are invited, when the ceremony is, what the place looks like, etc but he cares about the food? I mentioned that my dad could make pasta because he makes home made sauce from the recepie that has been passed down in my family for generations from my grandmothers family (she came to America on a ship shortly before the great depression). My dad has had many people try his sauce, people who own restaurants too not just regular people, and they have all loved it and all my Fiance said was, “but MY dad is making chiken and dumplings. We can’t have TWO types of pasta. That’s just strange…we need a meat and a side. Maybe my SIL can make something.” UGH!
How do I convince him to step up and decide on the important parts and lay off of the non-important things…like food?