\"Semi-upgrade\" e-ring now or wait until we can really afford a nice one

posted 1 week ago in Rings
Post # 2
1009 posts
Bumble bee

Kc20 :  Hmm…what is your current budget and what would the cost be of your dream ring? Do you have pictures of each option?

Post # 3
1427 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Hmm I’m in a similar situation, vetting a beautiful six prong round lab diamond ring. I’m (impatiently) waiting for myself to find a full time position before I pull the trigger on a new ring, my husband agreed once we’re a 2-full-income household I could get it. 

Until then… I’ve been “annoying” my husband and *casually* keeping a list of perfect diamonds for when the time’s right πŸ˜… I’d rather wait until I can get my dream ring without compromise, rather than blow money on things just to hold me over. 

Post # 4
12635 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I don’t see the difference between A and B. If his parents are going to judge you for spending money on jewelry when you are still struggling to establish yourselves, particularly if they are helping you out at all, then won’t they judge either way?

What is your financial situation? In your place, I’d wait until you can easily afford to spend the money. By that I mean on track for goals, emergency savings sufficient to see one or both of you through periods of unemployment or other need, stable jobs, no debt etc. 

Post # 7
6643 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

Morganite and amethyst are similar in terms of hardness, so switching to a morganite isn’t really upgrading to a forever stone (it still requires more gentleness than a moissy or diamond or other gemstone like sapphire).

I understand that you’ve just moved to the US to be with him and you’re wanting to make a good impression, but his parents’ thoughts and opinions about what you two do with your money as a married couple isn’t really a worthwhile concern to have. As long as your husband is comfortable with a purchase and you guys aren’t asking them for money, they can mind their own business.

Since you know what you actually want, though, I’d skip the “semi upgrade” because it’s just not a good use of money at this time (not because of what anyone else thinks) and save up for what you really want to have. 

Also, if you post a picture of your current ering/set, we’ll drool all over it and that might help tide you over while you dream of your upgrade down the road! I love that you have a stone that reflects your birthstone (amethyst is my birthstone, too, so happy birthdays to both of you!). I have a sapphire, because that’s my husband’s birthstone. It’s a sweet connection to have with your ering.

Post # 9
6643 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

Kc20 :  Your set is gorgeous! I love your ering. I had a couple people ask me if my ring was an ering, too, but I love it so I just told them yes and kept going. Also, the colors of your stones and bands go with your golden skin beautifully. Here’s my ring. Golden skinned women with birthstone erings unite! πŸ˜‰

And I do understand the desire to upgrade and get something that really talks to you. One day down the line, I’m going to get a lab grown blue diamond because I adore my sapphire but I also adore lotion and creams and sapphires pick up oils and get cloudy really quickly so I want the color and the sparkle in one stone.




Post # 11
1503 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI

That ring is beautiful.  When you’re in a good place upgrade to a diamond if it really matters to you.  Your set looks very bridal just as it is.  

Post # 12
1450 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

Kc20 :  love your set! It’s so pretty and romantic. I’m a sucker for light pastels πŸ™‚ 

I do know your struggle about wanting to upgrade though. I am waiting for an anniverary upgrade and proably will be on our fifth year wedding anniversary by the time I get it. I’m being patient for my dream ring but I do think about it quite often. Now that we own a home I have some home projects to keep my mind off of it but still it wanders back and it’s been 3 years so far since I’ve started started seriously coveting it.

I say hold out if it’s something you really want. Also consider if your tastes change because your trying to conform to pre-conceived U.S. standard/trends which is very much keeping up with the biggest and bestest and newest thing out there- don’t fall for it! I’d say give it six months to a year and if you still feel the same, then totally pursue your upgrade but don’t settle for a semi-upgrade if you want the diamond/moissanite more. 

Also your financial priorities might change too (housing/children/traveling etc) so keep that in mind.

Best wishes and welcome to the US πŸ˜€ 

Post # 14
349 posts
Helper bee

I loveeee your set itnis stunning and unique 

if you want another set I say go for what you really want thisntomet

if you really want moissanite get that maybe go they a less expensive vendor to get a larger atone

 Make sure it’s exactlly what you want this time make it fun try on styles and sizes etc

Post # 15
976 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: Shreveport, LA

Kc20 :  Your set is stunning and it 100% looks like a wedding set! I would wait and save up for your dream ring and rock that beauty a bit longer!!!

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