Send gifts for cancelled/postponed wedding?

posted 1 year ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should we / when to send a gift?

    Send a gift now for cancelled wedding - it’s rude not to

    Don’t need to send a gift for the cancelled wedding (but it would be nice)

    Don’t send a gift for cancelled wedding

    Send a gift now for postponed wedding

    Send a gift next year for postponed wedding

  • Post # 16
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    Busy Beekeeper

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    @yellowgold3846:  I’d probably just send the gift now to avoid forgetting, but I think waiting for the new date is reasonable too. There is probably no rule because it’s never been an issue before.
    I only missed one wedding this year… wasn’t going to be able to attend anyway so sent a card/check along with my decline. Sure not asking for it beck! Lol

    Post # 19
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    Honey Beekeeper

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    @yellowgold3846:  You should send a gift if you are moved to do so whether you are invited to a small ceremony, a Zoom ceremony or a 300 person reception.

    One generally assumes that people who are close enough to be invited to a traditional wedding will be so motivated, but when a couple elopes or has an intimate ceremony there will be people close to the couple who want to mark the occasion based on sentiment just the same. As I mentioned before, most ideally a wedding gift is sent just before the wedding date, though technically you have up until the first anniversary. 

    Post # 20
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

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    @yellowgold3846:  A gift shouldn’t be about whether you’re invited or not, but rather whether you care enough about the couple to give them something special to commemorate this milestone in their life. Assuming you care about them, I would give a gift around the time of the wedding regardless of whether or not I was invited to anything. 

    Post # 21
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2019

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    @yellowgold3846:  if you aren’t that close and they have no plans to follow through with an event where you attend in person and they host than just get them a more modest version of what you would have gotten them. So say you would have spent 100 dollars on a gift normally with attending their wedding, now with only a zoom invite you give them 50 with a nice congrats card.

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