Post # 16
I’d probably just send the gift now to avoid forgetting, but I think waiting for the new date is reasonable too. There is probably no rule because it’s never been an issue before.
I only missed one wedding this year… wasn’t going to be able to attend anyway so sent a card/check along with my decline. Sure not asking for it beck! Lol
Post # 17
To us it sounded like the reception is cancelled and they were thinking about doing the marriage ceremony with just their parents and streaming it over zoom. However this was worded more of a hypothetical / tentative plan in the their email since there’s no new date provided.
if we’re invited to the zoom ceremony, should we send a gift then?
Post # 18
Thanks everyone for your replies, makes sense! Glad I wasn’t totally off target with what to do in these situations….
I’m still a little unsure what to do about the ‘cancelled’ wedding / reception that may turn into a zoom live streamed ceremony at a later date. If we are invited to that, should we send a gift? Or no bc there’s no reception?
Sorry if that’s an ignorant question, we haven’t really been to many weddings yet as our friends are just started to get engaged/married this year. Just want to make sure we’re doing the right thing! I was leaning toward sending a gift anyway because it’s been a pretty tough year on them with their wedding reception being postponed then cancelled but then I was surprised most of the poll results said gift wasn’t necessary. I should also maybe add that we aren’t particular close to this couple and don’t see them very often.
Post # 19
You should send a gift if you are moved to do so whether you are invited to a small ceremony, a Zoom ceremony or a 300 person reception.
One generally assumes that people who are close enough to be invited to a traditional wedding will be so motivated, but when a couple elopes or has an intimate ceremony there will be people close to the couple who want to mark the occasion based on sentiment just the same. As I mentioned before, most ideally a wedding gift is sent just before the wedding date, though technically you have up until the first anniversary.
Post # 20
A gift shouldn’t be about whether you’re invited or not, but rather whether you care enough about the couple to give them something special to commemorate this milestone in their life. Assuming you care about them, I would give a gift around the time of the wedding regardless of whether or not I was invited to anything.
Post # 21
if you aren’t that close and they have no plans to follow through with an event where you attend in person and they host than just get them a more modest version of what you would have gotten them. So say you would have spent 100 dollars on a gift normally with attending their wedding, now with only a zoom invite you give them 50 with a nice congrats card.