Post # 1
I know Save the Dates are not intented to have responses, but I have a few guests who told me they will not be able to make it after they received our Save the Date card. What is the etiquette then for sending the formal invitation? Do I send it anyway?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated! I can’t seem to find anything online about this situation.
Post # 3
I would definitely still send one as a formality! I am even sending one to the priest we asked to perform our ceremony, even though he has another wedding out-of-town that day.
You may even want to include a short little note expressing a simple "We’ll miss you", so they know you were paying attention when they told you they couldn’t make it. Plus, things change – so maybe they’ll get the invite and decide to change their other plans and try to make it! 🙂
Post # 4
Yup — STD = Invite. People’s plans change and who knows, they may be able to make it after all. I personally would feel like if I told someone I could’t go and they don’t send me an invite, that they would have a grudge or something.
Add a quick handwritten note letting them know that if plans change that you still want them to know they are welcome.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
Yes, definitely send one. I agree with previous posts — plans change, and it’d be an etiquette no-no (hey, sometimes Emily Post knows what she’s talking about!) to not follow a STD with an invitation. Good luck and hope some of your "no" responders become yeses!
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2018 - Coyaba Resort, Montego Bay
Yes – if they received a STD, the receive an invite!