Post # 1
What is the correct etiquette for inviting people who’ve already told you that they are not going to be able to attend the wedding? Do we send an invite anyway? My fiance and I disagree about this. Thanks in advance bees!!
Post # 3
I think this has been discussed before. I think you send the invite anyway. People’s plans change. And just because they can’t make it doesn’t mean they aren’t invited. It is a nice gesture.
Post # 4
I am sending them anyway. I made my original guest list and am sticking to it. Even though I have on aunt who keeps telling me she’s not coming (like when she got our std).
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Send it anyway. They may suddenly be able to make it, and you don’t want it to look like you’ve rescinded the invitation if you actually want them there!
Post # 6
I sent invitations to people we knew couldn’t come. Just because they really wanted to, and I thought it would be nice for them to know we’re thinking about them, and also, to have a small memento of the occasion regardless.
It’s always nice to know the couple is thinking of you 🙂
Post # 7
I don’t think I’d send them. It’s a waste of time and money. They won’t be offended bc they have already told you that they won’t make it.
Post # 8
Send it anyway, if you’ve indicated that you’re going to invite them. If I were in the position of one of your guests, I’d consider it a snub not to be formally invited. Then again, I don’t know why I’d bother to say I’m not coming before I’d even been invited…
Post # 9
Send them! I am having a destination wedding, and I know some people may not be able to attend but I want them to feel included in my wedding. My FI’s grandmother cannot travel but am I really not going to invite his grandma?
Post # 10
I’m not sending them to people who have already said they aren’t coming. I agree that it’s a waste of time and money and I only have a certain number of invites. I created a list of people to send the invites to, in case i knew certain people already on my list wouldn’t be making it.
Post # 11
@<span style=”color: #81a026; font-size: x-small;”>CaitlinRivera I have to agree … it seems like a waste of time and money … if they can’t come, they can’t come. End of story.
Post # 12
- Wedding: January 2010 - Mr. P's GrandparentsÃ¢Â€Â™ Ranch
I would be sending invites to a part of my family in Chile that we already know can’t make it to the wedding – to me it’s more like a gesture to make them feel that I would love to have them with me 🙂 – I’m planning on sending them a small photo album after the wedding too
Post # 13
Etiquette says to send the invitation anyway. It is a nice gesture and they were on your original list to begin with.
Post # 14
I think it is best to send them the invite anyway. Like someone said they could change their plans or they just might enjoy knowing you thought of them. What’s it to you if you send out a few more that might not come?
Post # 15
I agree, it’s best to send them as a nice gesture, as a keepsake, and in case they’re able to come. I would be upset if we never got an invitation after being asked if we could come…
Post # 16
yes, send an invitation anyway.