Post # 1
I’m getting ready to send out my wedding invitations and am wondering how to handle the messy situation that is my Ex-MOH. I discussed in a previous post how our friendship it a rough patch after a drunken argument and she basically wrote me off after that. After reaching out to her multiple times and trying to patch things up and give her the opportunity to say her peace and put everything behind us, she backed out of the wedding and basically our friendship (she wished me good luck in my life and in finding peace within myself- so I took that as a goodbye).
Having said that, she’s a part of a close group of hometown friends I’ve had since elementary school. I truly don’t want to send her an invite and based on her actions don’t think she’d even want one, but I don’t know what the etiquette is for inviting ex-MOH, possibly ex-friends? I come from a reallllyy small, gossipy town, so I don’t feel like dealing with the drama of not inviting only her. Any help or suggestions?
Post # 3
actually, I am going through something similar. A 13 year friendship – just stopped. Suddenly, but not without lack of trying on my part. Hurtful things were said and we have not spoken in months. I wish her luck in whatever paths her life takes her down, but she will not be getting an invite to my wedding. I only want those there on my special day who I know I can count on. I live in a small town also and we still have several mutual friends, so I am welcoming the drama to come behind this with open arms. I will say my peace then to those who have something to say about it. It is my wedding, and yes I did try to salvage the friendship…. but there comes a time when people move on. This is that time.
Good luck in whatever you choose to do! But think to yourself before you drop her invite in the mail…. is she the type to show up and do something spiteful? Would she even show up to support you?
Post # 4
If it’s a small gossipy town, then everyone probably knows about the falling out already. You don’t want to invite her, she doesn’t want to come. Seems cut and dry to me!
Post # 5
Seems like you already invited her and she declined to me, whether or not it was a formal invitation written on paper and mailed to her.