(Closed) Send ring to dead ex's mom or pawn it

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 33
607 posts
Busy bee

Send it to his mum.

Post # 34
494 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I really like the donation idea, definitely.

Post # 35
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

To me, it sounds like she’s asking for things that belonged to her son, so if you had a jacket or something that belonged to him that he used I would absolutely send that.

However, this is something he bought for someone who is irrelevant (sorry but to his mother you likely will be) and it doesn’t seem like the sort of object that will give her any comfort. If anything this could look bad and come back badly to you.

id keep it in the donation box 😊

Post # 36
5641 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

I vote for the donation bin

Post # 37
1503 posts
Bumble bee

I would send it. Ive lost close loved ones and anything they cherished, I cherish. I imagine he bought it out of love and that may bring her comfort to have something he picked out. 

Post # 38
6582 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’d send it to her and let her decide what to do with it. If he was in a better place in in his life at the end time he gave it to you, it might be a nice thing for her to have. Perhaps it can remind her of the good times her son had rather than focusing on his death from addiction.

Post # 39
663 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2000

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beeinganonymousmeow :  

as a mother who has lost a child I want to say thank you for even thinking of giving it to her!

here is the thing I have read a lot of the posts and think they may not be realizing that while you are an ex you are a part of her child’s life and as long ago as it maybe you were a part of the life she is trying to remember 🙁

anyway I think that you should send it tell her you found it cleaning and you debated whether to send it or not or to donate to something but thought you would leave it up to her

I wish I had more from my daughter but she was very young so here is my perspective as a mother who has been there

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