Post # 1
I know they can not fly out for my shower as they are all spending an arm and a leg to be here for the wedding. My sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor and FI’s sister is a bridesmaid. FI’s SIL is not involved in the wedding. Do I still send shower invitations? I don’t want to look gift grabby as that is not the case at all. One is a family of 5 and the others are families of 3. I’m honored to just have them all coming in for the wedding!
Post # 3
I would definitely send them invitations to include them, especially if they are in the wedding party. Personally, I would include a short note along the lines of: “I completely understand if you cannot make the trip in for the shower, but just wanted to include you on the invite list. Looking forward to seeing you <insert wedding date>!! 🙂
Post # 4
this is one of the reasons i hate the whole “people are gift grabby” mentality. i am sure you are a great and wonderful person. i highly doubt you sister or SILs would think “oh great, she just wants a gift” if they received an invite from you. they would probaby think, rightly so, that you were thinking of them and wanting them to be a part of the special day. personally i would be upset to not be invited to a shower i was in the Bridal Party for or that was celebrating my future sister-in-law!
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2012 - Schloss Heiligenberg/ Spearfish Canyon Lodge
I really think you should send them an invitation – nothing stings more than to be left out and felt ignored or ostracized. I’d add a handwritten note saying that you’re aware they will probably not make it, but you wanted to make sure that they felt included. An “I’m thinking of you”.
Post # 7
I would invite them all, for sure. I don’t even think the note is necessary, unless you are really, really concerned. It’s appropriate etiquette to invite them to your shower and your guests will see it as a nice invitation, not as a gift grab!
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
You should send the invitation. When you have an event like this, you are supposed to invite everyone you would invite if in a perfect world you would invite them if they would be able to come even if you already know they can’t.
Post # 9
Send the invites. It shows you would like them to be there (even though you know they can’t) and that you’re welcoming them to such a special occasion. They will appreciate it.