Post # 1
I searched past threads on this topic but wasn’t able to come to a consensus! We have received three gifts, two from guests that won’t be attending the wedding and one from a guest that will be coming. These are not shower gifts (my shower is in two weeks) because none of these people were invited to my smallish shower.
Some of what I’ve read on other threads say that if it is a very early gift, like months, then you should thank them right away so they know you received it. But you are “only a few weeks away” from the wedding, hold off until after the wedding. I think this especially makes sense for guests who are attending – it seems weird to send them a thank you note before they come to the wedding! Like we are greedily opening everything and using it right away. And that way, we can say in their note how glad we were that they attended and how nice it was to see them. The only thing is, I’m not sure if we fall into the “only a few weeks away” category – we are almost exactly a month out.
What say you? Send thank you notes now or after the wedding? Does it depend on if someone is attending or not, or how close you are to the wedding date?
PS: I must admit that part of me wants to hold off because I want to have wedding photo thank you cards made. I am planning on sending shower thank you notes as soon as possible, on different stationery – should I just use that same stationery for pre-wedding gifts?
Post # 3
We sent all our thank yous right away because we didn’t want to forget about them. We didn’t get photo thank yous made because it would have taken too much time. I would use the shower thank yous and if you want to send these guests a photo thank you later to thank them for coming to the wedding, that would be fine.
Post # 4
Oooh, nevermind – i picked SEND IT, but now that i see that you have special photo cards, i’d drop them a quick email letting them know you received it and a thank you, but send them an OFFICIAL one later, too.
Post # 5
I would just send the notes as the gifts come in. That way the people know you got it, and you’ll have less work after the wedding!
Post # 6
I’ve been sending them as we’ve received gifts in the mail.
Post # 7
I think you are close enough to your wedding that you can just wait. I think the guest who couldn’t make it might enjoy seeing photo cards. Also, don’t you technically have 6 months from the date of your wedding to send thank you notes. So even if you count that time from when you received the gifts you can still send them out in enough time.
Post # 8
You can always send another letter/card afterwards with the picture. But I think it would be a good idea to send a note, or at least call and thank them and tell them that they will be missed (the ones not attending)
Post # 9
Def write them as the gifts come in.. leave your less work to do after the wedding 🙂 Plus the gift givers will appreciate knowing you received the gift. If they don’t hear anything they will wonder.. “hmm did the gift get to them” “Did it get lost?”
I say def write one asap after you get gift 🙂