(Closed) Send thank you notes now or wait for photos?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Send thank you notes now or wait for photos?
    Send thank yous now : (8 votes)
    53 %
    Wait for photos : (7 votes)
    47 %
  • Post # 3
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    71 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    If you wait, don’t wait too long.  My brother’s wedding was mid-May.  STILL no thank you notes!!  I finally called him on it and he said it’s because the photog has been dragging his feet.  I told him to ask for a few of the best of the two of them, get off his ass and get them out.  Heh.

    Post # 4
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    8353 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I would try to get a few preview photos from the photographer, if it is going to be a while until you receive them. I suggest contacting the photographer to find out when they expect to have your photos ready for you and then go from there. If it is going to be a while, ask if they can send you a few teaser photos so you can send out your thank yous.

    Post # 5
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    7053 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I am in same boat!  Will have our thank you notes made very soon!  But waiting for a few of us at the wedding.

    Post # 6
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    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Most photographers take at least a month before you get your pictures. I would start by asking your photographer for an estimate. I would try to get your thank you notes out by around a month after the wedding, so if your photographer is going to take much longer than that, I wouldn’t wait for the pictures. I just think it’s rude to wait too long on thank you notes. You could always send pictures out at another time, like with a Christmas or New Year’s card.

    Post # 7
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    124 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I would write all the notes and have them adresses and then just wait for the photos. I think people like receiving photos and will be happy to wait. The ‘rule’ is no longer than 3 months, right? So you have time 🙂

    Post # 8
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    31 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Oh man, the ‘thank you’s, those definitely take a while! I would aim to get ALL of the ‘thank you’s done by your 2 month anniversary. I think it’s better to surprise people with how quickly you get them out, then to surprise them with how long it can take.

    noritake22 had a great suggestion that my husband and I took advantage of – we emailed our photographer and requested a handful of full-res photos after we returned from our haneymoon, and then got them processed in wallet size to include in our thank you notes that we hadn’t already sent out yet.

    Post # 9
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    2015 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    Send  them now. The sooner you get it done, the better you’ll feel. They’re a huge project and they take quite a while. It feels SO good to drop them off in the mail. It’s one of the very last wedding-related obligations you’ll have!

    We were SO set on having wedding photo thank you’s, and in the end, decided to just get generic ones because we wanted them done. We sent out wedding photo Christmas cards that year instead.

    Post # 10
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    403 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I waited to get some photos.  I sent them out at the 3 month point (recently) and although I have received several emails and text messages about how nice it was to get a photo with the card, it was stressful having those thank-you’s constantly in the back of my mind.  I could almost hear the grumbling about how late I was.

    I included a personalized photo of me and hubby with each guest, so it wasn’t just a photo of us two or some generic wedding photo….it was actually us with each guest (mostly in couples), so, it was a nice personal touch….but still stressful.

    Post # 11
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    1752 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I told my photog upfront that I would need a particular set of photos early so that I could do thank you post cards.  She got them to me about a week after the honeymoon.  I went to Vistaprint and had the postcards about 3 days later.  Took us about a week to fill them all out.

    Post # 12
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    690 posts
    Busy bee

    I would email your photographer and ask for a few preview shots to include with your Thank You cards.  IN the meantime, I would work on writing the cards and addressing them so they are ready to go once they show up!

    Post # 13
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    3148 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    As mentioned by tons of girls here already…just ask your photog for 5 or 6 preview pics so you can pick one. 🙂

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