(Closed) Sending a Gift but not invited….

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
866 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

From your wording, it sounds as though she knows she isn’t invited and just wants to give you a wedding gift. I would tell her where you’re registered, and if she does send something, simply thank her graciously and leave it at that.

It seems like these days we struggle far more in dealing with the genuinely kind and generous people in our lives, as though it has become such a rare thing to experience thoughtfulness. It’s a sad thing really, but consider yourself lucky to have to be in this “happy predicament.”

Post # 4
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I don’t think you need to send her an invitation- a friend of my mom’s bought me an engagement gift and asked where I was registered but she knows she isn’t invited, some people are just very generous and like to buy gifts!

Post # 5
2580 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My supervisor asked me the same thing, and actually told me I shouldn’t feel obligated to invite him because he is my boss, but he would like to get me a gift. I think coworkers can be a unique situation and I agree with PP that sometimes we overthink situations where people are just genuinely being nice and unselfish. If I were you, I would just write her a nice thank you note and let her know how much you appreciate her generous gift, but there’s no need to invite her.

Post # 6
2453 posts
Buzzing bee

I don’t think you need to send an invite unless you really want to. We had a few gifts for coworkers and friends of the family who weren’t on the invite list. Some people are just generous. 

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