Post # 1
I went on a first date last night (my first since being single for a few months) and it seemed to great. He was easy to talk to, we laughed and at the end of the night he kissed me. I also made a comment about not wanting to leave at the end of the night because I was having a good time and he made a comment about how this didnt have to be the last time we hung out. The date overall was about 5 hours of dinner and then sitting at a bar talking.
I sent this text this morning Good morning! I just wanted to say thanks for last night, I had a great time with you. We should totally do it again soon! I’m going away next weekend but maybe we can grab dinner/drinks again this week before I do!”
I only sent it two hours ago, I know it’s still kind of early for a sunday but still no response. It wasnt too much right? Sorry I’m just back to being new at this!
Post # 2
I think it’s perfectly fine. Like you said maybe he sleeps in late on Sundays. Give it some more time. You’ve let him know you enjoyed your time and would enjoy seeing him again without being pushy. If he’s interested he will get back to you. If not then you will have an answer one way or another.
Post # 3
I think its good to do and I always sent a text after a date, especially if he asked me out to it, or if he paid. I think its nice and polite even if it leads nowhere. He might think its too early or too keen or whatever but if he does, screw him because lifes too short to play ‘how long should I wait to text’ or ‘hiding whether or not I like you’ games. Hopefully he will appreciate your honesty and straight forwardness (I know I would) and if hes interested you can set something up for this week. For now I think you did the right thing, just chill out (as much as possible) and wait for his response.
Post # 4
I would have let him make the first contact afterwards, tbh. Your text was very early on a Sunday, and you also asked him out again. Not to be all “Rules girl” or anything, bc mostly I think that shit is dumb, but men do like at least a little bit of a chase. Aloofness and not being too available, especially in the beginning, gives them something to work for.
If they like you and want to see you again, they will ALWAYS get in touch.
Post # 5
lookingahead : what absolute nonsense, you’re allowed to text men, the men who like the “chase” can tend not to be the ones who aren’t worth being chased by.
not too much, least you’re being an adult.
Post # 6
You did fine. If he’s scared off by a text message… ugh. I wouldn’t want to deal with that guy. Glad you had a good time, and I hope you hear from him soon!
Post # 7
whoswho : From an evolutionary and biological standpoint, this is certainly not “absolute nonsense”.
I’m not a “Rules” girl, either, but I do believe that it’s best to just wait a little and let him come. Especially after a date, people often need a little time to process everything. I agree with lookingahead, if a man likes you, he will always get in touch. OP, just have a little patience, maybe he will reply later. If he doesn’t, delete his number and move on.
Post # 8
cookingguru : I think it’s fine and all you can do is wait and see if he texts back. LOL, I’ve texted guys thank you after the first date as soon as I’ve got home.
I wouldn’t send a second text after this one unless he texts you back. You don’t want to sound too desperate.
Post # 9
Having met my husband online and going through lots of failed dates before that, if he is interested and it’s meant to be he will be delighted to have heard from you this morning. Probably don’t repeatedly bombard him with texts until you next hear from him, but I think whhat you sent is lovely. If he’s put off by that, he probably isn’t the right fit for you!
Post # 10
I would of waited for him to contact me. (THIS IS MY OPINION – mean bees back off)
That being said, if he likes you, it really doesnt matter at all. If he didnt like you, again, it doesn’t matter at all.
Think about it this way – when we like a guy and hes smoothering us (Not implying that you’re doing this, you’re not), we dont care how much they contact us. However, when we are not interested, a few calls or a text drives us crazy, like “Ugh! Why does he keep contacting me?”
One text either way isnt going to make a difference. Going forward, I would let him initiate, until youre in a place where you know that he has the same feelings as you do towards him.
He will text or call soon enough, if not, its better to know early on. Good luck, bee! Keep us posted 🙂
Post # 11
cookingguru : I don’t think you did anything wrong! I agree with pp, if he’s scared off by an enthusiastic text (after a 5 hr date in which he said he wants to see you again) then he’s not the one for you anyway.
Personally, I tend to be pretty shy and old fashioned about these things and usually would wait for the guy to text me first, but that doesn’t mean my way is better or right. I think it’s great you were confident enough to initiate contact after the date. I wouldn’t be too worried that he hasn’t replied yet, but if a whole day goes by without any response I would probably assume he’s not that interested.
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2017 - Outside in Paris
At the end of our first date I thanked DH for dinner and great evening. He told me later it made him feel good. I would avoid texting this dude anymore. Wait for him to text you.
Post # 14
lookingahead : These two bees captured my approach! I found that men typically responded better if I wasn’t super available or the first one to reach out after a date (for the first couple of dates). Call them games, but that’s just how it was. I adapted my approach after quite a bit of dating and that always worked best.
OP, I think your message is very sweet, but I would wait to contact him further until he contacts you. And when he does, don’t respond right away. Wait a bit, so that he knows you’re busy and have other things going on than just waiting by the phone for him to call or text.
Post # 15
HappySky7 : One text is not too eager. And even if it is eager, if you liked the person wouldn’t you be happy that they are showing eagerness?
The dude is either into the OP or not. If he’s into her, that’s not going to change because she said she’d like to see him again. If he’s not into her, then she could play it cool as a cucumber and it would not magically convince him to continue seeing her.