Post # 1
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Bumble bee
I already sent the Save the Dates… my FSIL advised me to send invites to a lot of OOT people on FI’s side about 6 months early because a lot of them probably won’t come, which could drastically alter plans (what if I can save and cut down on 4 flower arrangements, 40 favors, etc? it’s a LOT of people who apparently didn’t come to her wedding! They have something like 60 cousins when you count the cousins’ spouses and their kids)
What do you think about this?
Thank you!!!!
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
I think I sent mine three months before the wedding, and a lot of people thought that was super early. I think if you send them SIX months ahead of time, then they’ll be forgotten about. If you sent a STD with the date on it, then that’s probably sufficient.
Post # 5
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Busy bee
Your vendors should give a final deadline of all counts for menu, tables, flowers, etc. It’s usually a few weeks before the wedding. Just make your RSVP deadline a little bit before that. Gives you time to do any follow ups and make your final counts. Then you can send your invites 6-8 weeks (standard) before the deadline.
Your save the date card should give the OOT guests enough information (date and location) to where they can look at flights or hotels if need be in advance.
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
Everything I’ve read said to send them out 6-8 weeks before the wedding. I’m sendin ours out hopefully next weekend, which will be 4 months before the wedding. I want to make sure people can make plans (especially with it being on a long weekend) and they book their hotels.
Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
Yep, STDs should be enough 6 months out, as long as they understand that the STD means a formal invitation will follow. If they have any questions or concerns, they’ll contact you or your FI.
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
I think 6 months is too early to send invitations.
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