Post # 1
Our wedding is not until next September, but my fiance and I are trying to make tough decisions about our guest list right now.
In a nutshell, we have too many people on our guest list and are trying to find ways to get it under control. My fiance wants to create A and B lists. He has also suggested that we send out the A list invites 10 weeks before the wedding to allow us more time to send out B list invites (as A list no replies are received) and also because our wedding is on Labor Day weekend.
My first thought is that sending A listers invites 10 weeks ahead is not a good thing. Am I correct? What is the correct etiquette for this?
Thanks in advance!
Post # 3
I don’t have specific answers for your exact question, since we didn’t have an A list and a B list…but we did send out invites out 7 weeks in advance of the wedding. That allowed the guests 4 weeks to rsvp, and me an additional 7-10 days to track people down that didn’t respond before I had to turn nimbers into our caterer and bartender.
I’m sorry that’s not a specific answer, but maybe it helps!
Post # 4
Your A and B list timeline seems good!
Because it’s labour day weekend Save-The-Date Cards would be a benefit! BUT everyone you send a STD to needs to get an invite so the only way that this would work if you sent it to only the A group! But you don’t want to do this if some of your A list people know your B list people because people talk and they will get upset if they know they are on the B list!
Post # 5
Thanks for the responses!
It’s encouraging to hear that the idea of sending invites out 10 weeks in advance does not sound like a crazy idea!
We are sending Save-The-Date Cards out. We are planning to send these out with our Christmas cards, so also very very early! My fiance does not think many people except close family and friends will actually see the Save-The-Date Cards and mark it on there calendar. He thinks that people will only really think about attending once an invite is in hand… and hey, he might be right!
We are planning to send the Save-The-Date Cards to only A listers. I don’t think there will much problem with people talking to each other because we are trying to make the A list group a “core”group of closest family and friends. The B listers will be more distant family, family friends, co-workers etc…
Now, I just need to get my mother to stop telling everybody and their mother that they are invited to this wedding!