Post # 1
How many of you sent invites to your bridesmaids, groomsmen and parents? IMO it seems a bit redundant to invite the very people are helping to mail out the invitations. Am I the only that thinks this is a waste of paper and not eco-friendly? I’m really interested in practical reasons why this is done, rather than a recital of emily posts ideas that are now very outdated.
Post # 3
I could almost vote in two categories.
I would vote yes for etiquette reasons and sentimental reasons.
Post # 4
I would be upset if I didn’t get an invite to a wedding I was in.
Post # 5
Yeah I’m with caszos on this. If I could have put 2 reasons it would have been for both good etiquette and for sentimental value! I know both of our sets of parents were glad that they got the invitations. 🙂
As for the wedding party, I also sent invites to make sure whether they were bringing anyone with them or not, since all of them got +1’s. 🙂
Post # 7
I love receiving wedding invitations! More so if I am in the wedding or family because I am probably more excited about those weddings than others. I would be kind of miffed if I did not get one. And in this day and age, paper invitations themselves are not eco-friendly so if you are passionate about that you should just e-vite people. I think practically, you need the response cards (especially if people are selecting their dinner option). But again, this could also be done via a wedding website doing e-vites. The only concern would be older relatives who do not use the internet.
Post # 8
@bells: for sentimental and etiquette reasons i would do it. I didnt at first thinking the same as you…a little redudant as i know and they know they are coming, but in the long run it isnt that much more just to send them one!! 🙂
Post # 9
You don’t really have to send them one. Just hand it to them or ask if they want one. Most parents want one just as a keepsake, I think.
Post # 10
@mwitter80: Why would u be upset. If you have already been asked to be in the wedding thats already more of an honor than getting a regular invite. Why would you be upset to not get an invite which is reall meant for the regular guests.
Post # 11
I’d be upset if I didn’t get an invite and I was part of the bridal party. It just feels so informal to have the bride tell you when/where to show up and that be it. I love getting mail, so any opportunity I have to get something personal in the mail I am interested in.
Post # 12
I voted yes for etiquette and sentimentality – I dont really understand why you would not receive an invitation! We even gave my brother who lived with us at the time his own invitation – we didnt mail it to him but we just left it on his dresser. I would also be upset if I didnt get an invitation to a wedding I was in or for a family member.
Post # 13
I just mailed my Save the Dates to everyone. lol I think it’s a must to send invites and Save the Dates to all people at the wedding. IMO.
Post # 14
It’s funny you post this because FH asked me yesterday ‘Are we sending invitations to the wedding party? No, right? Because they already know they’re invited?’ and I just gave him the ‘I hope you’re kidding’ look of death.
I might be wrong, but I think someone would like to have an actual invitation to the wedding they are in for sentimental reasons. Furthermore, RSVPs are made to keep track. I would be worried that some people would see an oral invitation as something they can extend to whomever they wish. I don’t care if you’re a groomsman, if I didn’t put your flavor-of-the-week’s name on an invitation, you can’t bring her to the wedding!
Post # 15
I would send because many want to keep as a keepsake. I agree that you also need to know their meal choices, guests, etc. I want both parents to be surprised to see my invites. The only folks that will help me assemble will be my Maid/Matron of Honor. I iwll probably hand hers to her instead of mail, but she will get one just the same.
Post # 16
For the bridesmaids, because I know they’ll enjoy getting the mail, for our familys because they’ll also enjoy them, and for the groomsmen, so they’ll know when to show up 😉