(Closed) Sending out announcements with gift registry but not having a reception?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

House warming party?

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

you don’t send out your gift registry to them. period.

Post # 5
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Honey bee

You dont, but let your mom or other close family members know where you registered in case they ask her.  

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Ummm I wouldn’t. If you’re sending an announcement that’s very nice, but I would just let your immediate family know where you’re registered in case anyone asks.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

you don’t.  you can register and have  your parents spread it via word of mouth.  But i think there is no polite way to ask people for gifts…especially if there is no wedding.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Oh no, you can’t. It would look like you are expecting them to send you gifts without even being invited. Your only option is to send the annoucement without a registry list, anything else would come across as very greedy and quite rude I’m afraid.

What you could do on the other hand, is to throw a casual smaller reception to celeberate your wedding and your new house, the idea of a house warming party is great as that would be a natural occassion for guests to bring you a gift your new house.

And you never know, you might get a few family friends who will want to give you a gift after they receive the announcement and when they ask if there’s anything in particular you want you can send them the registry. Although, I would generally assume that if someone had a ‘secret’ wedding they were bowing out of everything that goes with a traditional wedding, including the expectation of gifts.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree with the others – send out the announcement by itself.  If someone wants to send you a gift, they will ask you or a family member where you’re registered.

 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Like the PPs said, your announcement shouldn’t mention registry information.  Many will probably just send a check, if they’d rather send a gift, they’ll ask.

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