Post # 1
So my fiance and i are getting married in the mountains in september. just a small ceremony with us, the pastor, and our two witnesses. We decided that having a reception and big wedding was too expensive and way too stressful. We however did just buy a house and i’m sure our families would want to get us something to start our lives together.
The question is how do i send out our gift registry to them with out making them feel bad or upset for not being invited to our wedding or a reception?
Post # 4
you don’t send out your gift registry to them. period.
Post # 5
You dont, but let your mom or other close family members know where you registered in case they ask her.
Post # 6
Ummm I wouldn’t. If you’re sending an announcement that’s very nice, but I would just let your immediate family know where you’re registered in case anyone asks.
Post # 7
you don’t. you can register and have your parents spread it via word of mouth. But i think there is no polite way to ask people for gifts…especially if there is no wedding.
Post # 8
Oh no, you can’t. It would look like you are expecting them to send you gifts without even being invited. Your only option is to send the annoucement without a registry list, anything else would come across as very greedy and quite rude I’m afraid.
What you could do on the other hand, is to throw a casual smaller reception to celeberate your wedding and your new house, the idea of a house warming party is great as that would be a natural occassion for guests to bring you a gift your new house.
And you never know, you might get a few family friends who will want to give you a gift after they receive the announcement and when they ask if there’s anything in particular you want you can send them the registry. Although, I would generally assume that if someone had a ‘secret’ wedding they were bowing out of everything that goes with a traditional wedding, including the expectation of gifts.
Post # 9
I agree with the others – send out the announcement by itself. If someone wants to send you a gift, they will ask you or a family member where you’re registered.
Post # 10
Like the PPs said, your announcement shouldn’t mention registry information. Many will probably just send a check, if they’d rather send a gift, they’ll ask.