(Closed) Sending out invites, advice please.

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1920 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think they should all get an invite

Post # 4
156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think everyone should get an invite.  It’s just a courtesy.

Post # 5
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

as the other Bees posted above, send everyone a invite – espeically if they like to show this to their friends (like my mum would). and dont forget your bridemaids – yes they are going to be there but its nice to receive one as well

Post # 6
302 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Two things: I love to scrapbook, and I always keep people’s wedding invitations. If my sister was getting married and didn’t send me one, I would be really sad. Second, how on earth are your guests (even bridal party, ESPECIALLY bridal party) supposed to know the when and where without an invitation?

Post # 7
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

We sent everyone invites. How else would they know the times and places of things, like you said. Also, I think it’s just polite.

Post # 8
860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@katherine26: I am sending invitations to everyone.  Don’t you want them to see your beautiful invitations?

Post # 9
14 posts

Yes, I send them all too. One of my hubby’s friend didn’t send us invitation, because my hubby was his best men. Bt guys, they don’t care about invitation. But giving invitation shows them official and polite. 

Post # 10
1486 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

everyone, i have never hear of not sending to everyone.

Post # 11
3314 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’d send them to everyone.  I know my parents and his both wanted an invite so that they could keep them as a keepsake.  For my wedding party, I gave them a plus 1 so I wanted to know if they were going to be using that plus 1 and I figured they’d like to have the same info as the rest of the people invited!  

Post # 13
1636 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

well, duh! of course they are invited, but, what a nice keepsake.  send the invitation:)  besides, its something besides bills:)


Post # 14
374 posts
Helper bee

Hi.  Maybe culturally inviations are not expected.  Different cultures have different rules.  I was once invited to a wedding which was by word of mouth.  Nothing was written.  And, we had 24 hours notice.  The wedding was lavish and formal.  No one received written invitations, just phone calls or bumping into the bride the week before.

But it is better to err on the side of caution and send it to everyone.  The main reason being, if this is a cultural situation, you want to keep control of the number of people they bring with them to the wedding, and the invitation envlopes and RSVP card will make it clear.

I suggest, not knowing your in laws or family, that this is a red flag.  Not a bad flag, but a cautionary flag.  Perhaps you would be best to do your RSVP cards with this wording:

You have a reservation for ___ at the reception.                                              {You will fill in the blank BEFORE you mail them out.]

____your invitation is accepted with pleasure.

____regretfully cannot attend.

RSVP by month, date, year

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