Post # 1
I know the general rule of thumb for sending invites is 6-8 weeks, but is it breaching some sort of wedding etiquette if you send them out earlier for a long weekend wedding? My wedding is taking place on a long weekend. 97% of our guests live in the city and will not have to travel far for our wedding, but I thought it might be a good idea to send our invites a bit earlier because people often make plans to go away during the long weekend (it is pretty common for people living in our city to get away, especially when we border the States). Would sending out the invites 3 months before the wedding be unnecessary/excessive? When is an appropriate RSVP deadline in this situation? My reasoning for this is that people would be given more notice and decide their long weekend plans accordingly. Any comments/advice for or against this is appreciated!
Post # 3
I am planning to send mine 3 months in advance. I think that is reasonable.
I am also planning to have the RSVP deadline 1 month in advance.
Post # 4
I’m also doing my wedding over a long holiday weekend so my STD’s and invitations are going to go out a little earlier than normal, just based on that sole purpose. We are probably half local/half out of town, so I want to make sure everyone has enough notice.
Post # 5
I don’t think there would be anything wrong with sending your invites out early. Did you do a save the date? If so, maybe send them at the 10-week mark?!
General rule of thumb (or so I’ve been told) for a response time is three weeks before, plus one day (so for you, July 12th). I think you could either keep it at July 12th, or add one one more week, so July 5th.
Post # 6
@jcl12: My desination wedding is in August and our guests are welcome to spend the 4 day weekend with us. For most of our guests it will be a 1.5 hour drive to the wedding, but everyone will definitely have to rent hotel rooms in a small mountain town, so I wanted to make sure everyone had the info needed to make the necessary reservations. Our wedding planner told us to send out invites April 1, so we did! 🙂 Most of our guests have already been asking for more info for several weeks now so they could make plans.
Post # 7
@jcl12: I personally would not go to a wedding on a long weekend. Having said that, giving as much notice as possible is a great idea so people can plan for it if they’re willing.
Post # 8
We’re getting married on a long weekend, vast majority have to travel, and noone has declined for that reason! (only declines have been long term sickness or living abroad). I also went to two on long weekends last year, a lot of people (myself included) like weddings on long weekends.
We sent our invites our mid Jan for an end of May wedding, there were no save the dates sent out before this.
Post # 9
@jcl12: I think that’s a pretty reasonable amount of time for this particular set of circumstances, it’s nice to have the extra time to make a decision regarding attendance.
Post # 10
I have already sent out my wedding invitations – I did it at the end of March/early April. I did it because we have a lot of out-of-town guests coming.
I had posted it to the Bee and many said since I sent out Save-The-Date Cards I didn’t have to – but most of my guests didn’t realize what Save-The-Date Cards are, and didn’t assume they would be invited and that was what the STD indicated, so I figured I would just send out the invites.
I have had numerous guests thank me for the added time to figure things out. 🙂
I was worried if I sent them too soon that I would have people who lost them, took too long to send back the RSVPS that they got misplaced, etc. But we’ve already had 20 cards back out of 86.
Post # 11
@jcl12: since your wedding isn’t until August, could you still send out Save-The-Date Cards soon (like this week) and then do the regualr invites 8 weeks prior?
Post # 12
@jcl12: Mine is over a holiday weekend (4th of July) and just sent mine out right at the 8 week mark. any earlier and I fear people losing the info.
Post # 13
Thanks for the response everyone! I do worry that if I send the invites out too early, people may forget. However, we have been engaged since last year and I would say at least 80% of our invite list already knows our wedding date and are expected to come. That’s why I thought it wouldn’t matter too much to do Save the Dates, it’s kind of redundant.