Post # 1
I was reading when a good time to send out invites are & I’m def. going against the tradition of 6-8 weeks before the wedding. 100% of my guests are coming from out of town because our wedding is 3hrs away from where we live so everyone has to get a hotel, make travel plans & save money! We sent out Save the date cards probably around March 2012 and our wedding is March 21, 2013, but that did not give any indication as to where the wedding is, how much travel will cost, or how much the hotel will be, or how many nights they will need the hotel for.
So we’ve decided to send the invties out in Sept./oct. time frame & ask for RSVP’s back by Nov. Dec. time frame this way we can have everything squared away ahead of time. I don’t want to be rushing around a couple weeks before the wedding doing everything. Those last weeks before the wedding I want to enjoy & be stress free as much as possible.
We are doing as much as we can DIY. I made our invites from scratch includig the pockets to hold everything, we are doing all the candles, the candy buffet, programs, kids coloring books, center pieces, all ceremony decor, our cake topper, our I spy’s, the flip flop basket, & so much more! ALso we will need time for seating charts, place cards, setting up time to travel 3hrs away to the venue & get them all the info. as well as coordinating everything with our big bridal party!
Did I mention that I have two kids, work & go to school? Also the fact that my fiance is in the military & will be away for training for a month through all this!! AAAHHH!!! I’ve got so much to do & so little time to get it all done myself!
Post # 3
I think it’s smart to send your invitations out earlier than the norm, given everyone’s travel circumstances.
However, I don’t think it’s such a good idea to ask guests to R.s.v.p. 3-4 months before your wedding. Some people won’t know their plans that far in advance, some people will forget, some people’s plans will inevitably change over that space of time and they’ll have to change what they R.s.v.p’d, which will be annoying to you … R.s.v.p.s have a low rate of return anyway, and I think by doing it this way you’re actually complicating your life even though you’re goal is to simplify.
We did hotel blocks with a release date of one month before the wedding, and we set our R.s.v.p. deadline for that same date, because it would be easier to remember just one date for both things and because we felt that one month gave us sufficient lead time for planning without being too close or too far out. Could something like that work for you?
Post # 4
Why don’t you do a wedding website that lists in detail where it will be, the hotel name and number and the event coordinators name so they can secure their rooms in your block of rooms. You should list the last date they can block a room by. Do it for 6 weels before wedding date. You can also list your registry on their and directions toget there. Are u doing welcome bags to be placed inside their hotel rooms?
Post # 5
@Latrise: We do have a wedding website which lets everyone know all that info but they won’t be seeing that till the invites go out because that’s where it’s located. I’m hoping most people will respond on line but… I have some family that does not have access to a computer so we did formal rsvp cards as well. The room blocks are also done & stop a month out.
Getting Out of Town bags together, seating charts, place cards, programs & together including making sure all plans are squared away is a lot to handle along with two kids (3 & 4), a job, school full time, a house to be taken care of & a man in the military who spends a lot of time away from home so….. I don’t know if waiting till that close would be smart for me but well see as it gets closer, it might just make it easier if it’s closer who knows…..