(Closed) Sending out Save The Dates for a very non-traditional wedding?

posted 4 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: We should...
    Send out a vague STD right before going to Europe, it's nice to give notice : (3 votes)
    43 %
    Just send the photo invites three weeks before, it's enough time : (2 votes)
    29 %
    Other, explain in comments : (2 votes)
    29 %
  • Post # 3
    11890 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @musician32992:  can you say you’re having an engagement party on such and such a date and then when you get back from Europe say ‘fooled you – we’re married! Come celebrate’?

    Post # 5
    282 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I don’t have any advice for the invitations (me and DH planned our wedding in a month because of family issues so we didn’t send out our invites until 2 weeks before which I wouldn’t suggest but it worked out for us) anyway to my point, I just wanted to say I’m glad things are looking up for you! I remember you posting on a thread of mine saying how you were waiting for your SO to propose but it looks like everything is working out so congratulations! Good luck with everything (: 

    Post # 6
    1511 posts
    Bumble bee

    @musician32992:  While I like the idea of doing the engagement party as a cover, I am more likely to make an effort to attend a wedding or at home reception than an engagement party.


    I would send a pretty engagement photo out before you leave and word it as an invite to celebrate your elopement at such and such date. Then, give the guests who come to (or don’t come but you want to have photos) photos of the day at the party and have a slideshow with the whole day documented for them to see.


    On the invite, with an e-pic, “Mr. and Mrs. will be tying the knot on Date! Please join us on Reception Date at Random Location to celebrate our marriage, at Such and Such 5:00 pm.”


    Post # 8
    1609 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @musician32992:  we are doing something very similar (although we are doing the small legal ceremony and the reception on the same day.)  I emailed STDs and only referenced the party, then when we sent paper invites I included a “vip” insert card for those invited to the ceremony to give them details about it.

    Post # 9
    1773 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I agree with a PP- I don’t understand why you’d need to lie or be vague on anything sent out earlier. Just send out invites with full details at a normal time- the marriage announcements can wait until the pics are ready. for the invites to celebration only, you can probably find great wording on other threads.

    I probably would not include the date you’re getting married because that’d confuse guests if they receive invites before your marriage date, but they aren’t invited to it (to avoid confusion, use the marriage ceremony date only on the wedding announcements that go out after the ceremony). 

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