Post # 1
I’m torn. I will be sending Save the Dates in a couple of weeks, and they will include our website. I think some people will be a little confused by the STDs, just from what I’ve read here and knowing that on FI’s side, things have tended to be a little more casual and local so STDs haven’t been sent often.
With that in mind, I’m wondering if I should pull down the RSVP tab on my website for a little while.
On one hand, if people know they are or aren’t coming, then it would be nice to get that information early, even though a STD doesn’t call for an RSVP.
On the other hand, people not familiar with STDs may be confused about if they are supposed to RSVP or not. Also, I still would send everyone invitations next year, even if they RSVP’d no to the STD. That could be confusing/odd too.
Thoughts? I KNOW I am overthinking this, but hey – isn’t that what the Bee is for? Haha
Post # 3
Leave it up. 🙂 If they can let you know as soon as they get the STD, so much the better.
Post # 4
I had an RSVP tab but it was for the welcome dinner and the rafting the next day. the actual wedding RSVP would have been in print with the invite.
I deactivated that tab and explained what is was for. People could say yes, but then find out a year later they really cannot go, that would be hard to undo stuff.
We had several people say, “So does this mean we’re invited? Where do we respond?”
“Also, I still would send everyone invitations next year, even if they RSVP’d no to the STD. That could be confusing/odd too.”
Yes that is what you do even if they said yes or no.
Will you have a web RSVP and mail RSVP?
Post # 5
I would keep it hidden until you send your invitations — which is when people will likely actually RSVP.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
I would remove it temporarily, or replace that tab with something that says “Formal Invitations will be sent at a later date” (or even send that along with your save the dates). Yeah it’s good to get that count early, but you don’t want to pressure anyone far in advance, plus anything could happen so what could be a yes or no RSVP at the time of your save the dates could be the opposite at the time your invites are out.
Post # 7
Thanks guys, I think I will pull it down. Like you said, I’m concerned people also might RSVP “Yes” out of excitement but then really when it gets closer to the date not be able to attend, but not let us know.
@sienna76: I am undecided on what I’m going to do on RSVPs. I am considering doing primarily web/phone with a card only for those who are older or not tech-savvy. The cost/postage for paper RSVPs seems unnecessary, especially considering how many people don’t even send them in. 95% of my guest list is very tech savvy, so I could just do a card for those who aren’t.