(Closed) Sending Thank You Notes 7 months after the wedding … need advice please!

posted 9 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Should I acknowledge the lateness of the thank you cards?
    Yes, say something about how late/ busy you have been : (19 votes)
    45 %
    No, it is not necessary to say anything at all - people understand : (22 votes)
    52 %
    Other, explained in comments : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    493 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    Totally do it now, don’t worry about lumping in with holiday cards. People will appreciate that you did them.

    If it’s ultimately going to make you feel more comfortable about the situation and soothe your nerves,  mention that married life has proven to be busy, thank them using the “traditional thank you note language” you mentioned, and then go on to wish them a healthy, happy and prosperous New Year.

    Post # 4
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Better late than never! It doesn’t hurt to say “hey we’ve been so busy, but we really appreciate” blah blah blah instead of “thanks!” If you bought a new house or anything, it doesn’t hurt to bring it up and bring thsoe people into your lives a little bit beyond the wedding. You don’t have to profusely apologize, though…when I write thank you’s i try to avoid anything too generic anyways, so I likely would say something along those lines and then mention how the new gift is being used or something like that…

    Post # 5
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    2004 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2008

    I don’t know if you want to mention you are busy or that you had to wait to have pics made, because that sort of sounds like an excuse. Instead I would just focus on how awesome married life has been. How about “full and happy” instead of “busy”? You could include an apology if you think the person you’re writing to will be offended by the timing of the card. Otherwise, I think people will just be happy to hear from you.

    Post # 6
    Member
    493 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    “Full and happy” is a great wording for it!

    Post # 7
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    4465 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I would say something.  My cousin got married last October and didn’t send thank you cards out until the summer.  It was a big to-do in my family about how late the cards were and how she was not grateful for the gifts, etc. etc.  A little note of explanation would definitely make people feel a little better :o)

    Post # 8
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    2767 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    just send them out asap.  i wouldn’t worry about mentioning how late they are or how busy you’ve been.  just get them out as fast as you can!

    Post # 9
    Bee
    12143 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

    I don’t think you messed up.  Seven months is a little bit long but not unreasonable.  I think it’s better not to make excuses, just send them out!!

    Post # 10
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    4480 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    I would just get them out the door, and the sooner the better. Should you have sent them sooner? Probably, but it’s too late for that now, so a nice, thoughtful thank you note is going to be worth more to people than an excuse for how long it took.

    Post # 11
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    2004 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2008

    I agree with spaniel—what matters most is that you are thoughtful. A dashed off apology would be just as bad as a dashed off thank you. So “sorry we were busy, thanks for the gift” sounds just as bad as “thanks for the gift.” Whether you apologize or not, just make sure to give the cards a little more effort since they are later than anticipated. Good luck 🙂

    Post # 12
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    1523 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think you can mention some small reasoning, but I think most will appreciate a thank you card! I would not lump them in with your holiday cards. I think a seperate thank you note shows more time and effort and appreciation.

    This is a topic that annoys me a lot. I was raised to send thank you cards after getting gifts. It’s really the polite, gracious thing to do. I have been to three weddings in the last few years where no thank you card was ever sent to us. I really think it’s unacceptable. The most recent case of this was a wedding in August. I am hoping that they have just been busy and will send out thank you notes!

    Sorry this got long, but I think it’s great that you are sending out the thank you cards!

     

    Post # 13
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think you should send them forth-with, but not mention anything about being busy. I agree with the others that it’s ok to say how happy and whirlwind newlywed life is or something, but just basically saying busy makes it sound like thank you’s aren’t priority (which I know you probably don’t mean to say to them).

     

    Bella

    Post # 14
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    1207 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    I think it would be ok to mention how “full and happy” your married life has been in your thank yous, that way people will read between the lines and understand.  Also, I agree with other people you should be sure to make your thank you notes more personal since they are a little late.

    Post # 16
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    769 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    better late than never! i still haven’t received a thank you for my friends wedding two years ago… after he asked me three times if he sent one to me yet! is it too late to hold out hope for a card? 😉

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