(Closed) Sensitive after the big O?

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
2588 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

He needs to be considerate and respectful of your needs–and from the sound of it, he is not. You need to have a big talk with him about this. He shouldn’t be pouting about not getting what he wants.

FWIW, my FH and I don’t have this problem, per se, but sometimes he does finish first which makes me a bit frustrated. Still, it’s the emotional connection that matters most to me (most of the time, anyway), so it’s satisfying even if I don’t quite get there.

Post # 4
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I agree that he needs to be sensitive to your needs.  He shouldn’t want to cause you physical pain by doing something that hurts you.  I don’t have this problem of being too sensitive after orgasm though.

Post # 5
226 posts
Helper bee

Well, if you become uncomfortable he should stop!  Seems more like his problem than yours.  If he’s going to act childish and selfish about it, you know?  I think the fact you want to try and help him afterwards should be enough.

How long have you been sexually active?  I know when I first started having sex I used to be very sensitive after climaxing, but over time it hurt less and less.  Sometimes I’ll still get very sensitive and need him to just not move for a couple of minutes and then he can continue.  Have you tried that? – Him staying in but just not moving until you feel less sensitive.

Post # 6
1222 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Fiance & I have this problem because (sorry, it may be TMI) if I finish first I get dry and I can’t continue.  I think foreplay would help so you are both ready to go. Also, what about the use of toys as far as clitoral stimulation that you’re both able to finish together?

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