- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
Just had a convo with my FH and the subject of adoption came up. We’ve been discussing him adopting my two boys (7 & 8). My ex husband left a little over 5 years ago and has only seen them twice since (last time being 2007). ExH sent a ridiculous email a number a years ago, telling me he’s just out there trying to survive and he hopes I find happiness and someone to love me and help me take care of the boys. (what?) I would probably would have found this heartbreaking if he wasn’t a bigger drama queen than Lindsay Lohan.
Simply put: My FH and I know we need to wait to get married in NJ before we can petition for the adoption based on abandonment. But the part we’re fuzzy on is how long the period of abandonment needs to be. In my head, I think it’s 7 years, but I don’t know where that came from. Can anyone help?
Just for the record, my boys call him dad. They were still in diapers when the ex disappeared in the middle of the night, so my FH is the only father they know.